My (22M) girlfriend (22F) suddenly changed personalities, and I am super confused?

Hello everyone,

I have been in a pretty stable long distance relationship with my girlfriend for 3 years. We have had our ups and downs, but it has been a smooth sail until now. She has been the best partner ever, and she has always understood my situation, and offered me a shoulder to cry on.

A couple days ago, we finally decided that we will move in together. We were both happy and hopeful regarding the situation until this morning. She said it’s a pretty big decision, and I told her we will not treat it as such, and we will make it work. Of course, I meant it that I will try to make it less stressful for her.

However, she snapped, saying that I don’t understand how it is to uproot your life. I assured her that I didn’t mean it like that. I told her that I can’t do it alone, and I will need her support. She asked me if I mean that she isn’t doing anything from her side, and I told her that it feels like I don’t have her cooperation. (We both have severe anxiety issues, and I had just woken up, and probably could have rephrased it better).

I don’t know what happened, but her personality completely changed after that. She has been a very good partner and we have always split our bills 50/50. Now, she wants better. She wants expensive gifts, and she wants it from me. She doesn’t want a breakup, she magically wants me to start earning 6 figures and pay for everything.

She hasn’t been like this, ever. She says she wants to be treated like a girlfriend. A little context to it, is that I used to buy gifts for her in the past, order some nice dinner for her, and she would always get mad at me for that. She would tell me that I am wasting my money, and I should save it instead of spending it on her. She told me that we can spend money like that, once I get a nice job and start earning more.

Things went on like this for a few months, and suddenly she’s upset that she doesn’t get treated like a girlfriend. She has severe anxiety and envy issues, and I figure that’s probably one of the reasons for this situation.

I am a recent college graduate in Canada, our tech market is super bad, and I can’t land a job just now. She’s upset about it, and she keeps wondering how I can’t land a single job (She works in healthcare).

I am genuinely out of options, and I am super confused. It genuinely feels like the woman I loved is gone, that she’s no more. I always love to do things for my girlfriend, but the demand that I need to do things for her, it feels like I am being held hostage for a ransom.

I am genuinely not comfortable with this kind of arrangement. I have always wanted a woman for me, but it feels like I am dating a totally different person now. I don’t want to end our relationship, but I don’t know if I want it to go on like this.

TLDR; After 3 stable years in a long-distance relationship, we decided to move in together. A small argument about handling the transition led to a major shift in the girlfriend’s behavior. She suddenly began demanding expensive gifts and demands to be spoiled, despite previously discouraging such spending. I am a recent tech graduate struggling to find work in Canada. I feel confused and heartbroken by her sudden change, as if the woman I loved no longer exists.