We’re doing long distance rn, and when we come into a disagreement or spat (I wouldn’t call it argument), 99% of the time it’s due to a miscommunication or misunderstanding, but he seems to drag them out way more than I feel is necessary. Whenever i make a mistake he refuses to acknowledge it, will tell me he doesn’t want to talk to me for fear of making me more mad (when I tell him over and over I wasn’t ever mad in the first place), or for fear of messing up again (when it was my mistake). I send him multiple texts apologizing, owning up to my mistake and asking him to let me own up to it as well, and he either ignores the texts or tells me I did nothing wrong and it really frustrates me. I explain the same things over and over to him and he never listens to me, I ask him over and over if he could listen to me, and he never answers the question. I beg him to listen to me and he still doesn’t, today I asked him if he could just Try to even THINK about listening to me and he said to me “maybe”. It just really hurts and idk what to do. We’re seeing each other in person soon again, should I try to bring it up then? He’s a really sweet person it’s just these misunderstandings that I feel could be over so much faster if he listened to what I was saying yk? I understand that he has a lot going on and doesn’t have the greatest life, but I don’t feel like that’s a very valid excuse for the way he treats me sometimes.
TLDR: whenever my boyfriend and I argue bc of a miscommunication he refuses to let me take responsibility or listen to what I’m saying no matter how many times I ask him to
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Sounds like he’s either immature, insecure or both. Just be calm and explain in a friendly way that you like him, and he has nothing to worry about, but you would like him to talk to you when these things happen. You’re not mad at him; you just want him to communicate with you, because that increases intimacy.