I’ve been at my job for about a year and this coworker we will call Ella. Ella is a problem employee and has done things like going through another employees phone, gossiping about various coworkers, chronically late etc.
Recently I was approached by my boss after a vacation I was on that a matter involving me was reported to hR. After some convincing I managed to get out of him what I was accused of. Ella had been telling other employees that I had slept with a male coworker inside our shared office. This coworker and I have never worked a shift alone together and would quite frankly be impossible. Another employee had reported this rumor to him and he took it to HR. The next day we receive a department wide email about rumors and bullying. I ask him what is gonna be done about her actions and he tells me the most that happens is she “might get written up”
She has tarnished my reputation at my work place and did what I view as sexual harassment. How can I proceed with this to ensure she gets proper punishment?
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Write an Email to HR that you are taking this to your lawyer. A rumor like that is sexual harassment at least in my country and document everything!!! If you have a labor board or something also reach out to them. Often times HR won’t do anything unless they are forced to
>She has tarnished my reputation at my work place and did what I view as sexual harassment. How can I proceed with this to ensure she gets proper punishment?
companies have to investigate violations of workplace policy and document the results…how do you get justice from a one time thing? you probably dont. If you document the harassment and she does something similiar, to you or others? well then that is a different matter…wait you say your HR still does nothign after continued harassment, that you have documentation of and proof..well then that is what lawyers are for? You have to pay a lawyer though, unless you get them to get a piece of the settlement Bbetter be a home run case or they wont take that. 0% of 0 – time and expenses = your fucked and they aint doing it..I have encouraged everyone who threatens me with a lawsuit to just do it. over the years, not a single one has followed through that I know of…my guess is one or two tried and the lawyers hit them with a number and that ended that..dont really know though, I encourage them all to do what they have to do..I guess im a FAFO kinda person, I found out and someone threatening to sue me, just makes me laugh.