Just like the title says. He says he doesn’t do it “if he can help it.
He told me his friends said that he can be kinda smooth sometimes but he always stops before it can go further. He said that he told them he stops before things get serious because he’s in a committed relationship. I was obviously upset and now I can’t stop thinking about all of the times he’s been out with his friends flirting with women. They tend to go to parties a lot on the weekends, and him and his friends had told me he doesn’t talk to the women there. When I started asking what he said to the women and if things went further, he got mad and told me to “go find a man that doesn’t act like a man.” I tried to question him about it later and he said he doesn’t really flirt with other women like that.
I feel betrayed. I stuck by him and I always tried to make sure he was comfortable with our relationship and that he had no reason to be jealous. I asked him how he would feel if I did the same thing, and he said, “women don’t actually want to flirt, they want to be flirted with.” I can’t trust him and I feel like I’m wasting my time.
TLDR; My Bf admitted that he flirts with other women when he’s out with his friends. He says he doesn’t do it “if he can help it.” And when I got upset he told me to go look for a perfect man or just date a woman. I asked him how he would feel if I did the same and he said, “women don’t want to flirt, they want to be flirted with.” I just feel foolish because I try to make sure he feels confident and secure in our relationship.