My partner of four months is going to his home city in another state soon. An old hookup that he’s kept in touch with (meaning friendly check ups) asked to meet him for coffee to catch up. He asked me if I’d be ok with this and I can’t tell if I’m just insecure or if this is weird, but I’m not sure if I’m comfortable with this. Is it weird? I don’t keep in touch with any old hook ups because I don’t see the point but maybe others do?
He says she knows about me and asked him if it was ok with me as well.
TL;DR uncomfortable with partner meeting old hookup. Weird or normal? Should I be ok with this?
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Not normal in my book and I would 1000% be jealous.
That’s up for you to decide personally how to feel about it. I myself am not interested in anyone who still maintains contact with anyone they have hooked up with. It’s a boundary I set immediately, I don’t care if they are just friends now.
That’s odd why would you keep you keep up with a past hookup. I get if you have kids n you coparent or something but that’s just odd
Yea no that’s weird, I would be uncomfortable and question why my bf still wanted to even maintain that relationship while being with me
First off, they both seemed perfectly respectful about getting your permission, I think if he intended to cheat you wouldn’t have heard about it. If they kept things amicable between them then it’s reasonable to want to catch up over some coffee while he’s in the area. If you’re really worried, have him call you after.