Hi Reddit,
My girlfriend (24F) and I (24M) have been together for just over a year. We’ve had a pretty trusting relationship—so much so that I gave her access to my social media accounts because I truly have nothing to hide.
The issue started recently when she sent me a screen recording of a video I had watched on Facebook. It was just a random TikTok-style video of a girl sitting and looking at the camera—fully clothed, not dancing or doing anything provocative.
My girlfriend got really upset that I watched it (even though I didn’t interact with it), and now she says she wants to break up over it.
I honestly don’t understand how this crossed a line. I wasn’t flirting or messaging anyone. I just scrolled past a video that autoplayed and stopped on it for a few seconds.
Is this kind of reaction normal? Am I wrong for thinking this is a huge overreaction? Should I be trying to fix this, or is this a sign of deeper issues?
Thanks for any advice.
TL;DR: My girlfriend of one year wants to break up because I watched a random Facebook video of a girl just sitting and looking at the camera. I didn’t interact with it. I don’t know if I messed up or if this is a sign of bigger issues.
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Obviously not a normal reaction. If she wants to break up over that, let her
She sent you a screen recording of a video you watched on Facebook? How in the world did she go that? Is she monitoring your internet usage?
She seems stable and like a keeper, you should marry her and give full access to your media at all times, seems like a healthy approach.
I don’t even know what to make of your post, like what responses do you expect? Surely you know this sounds like insanity? (/Said by someone that used to have an abusive ex not want me to commit thought crime by thinking wrong thoughts.) fucking run away mate, save yourself from years of therapy after!
Yeah, no definitely not normal and a huge over reaction. It could be one of two things. Either A) she’s just very emotionally immature or B) she’s trying to find a way to break up and this is all she has. Either way, maybe let her go because if it’s A you’ll be dealing with problems like this for years or if it’s B well just let her.
Trust matters. If your girlfriend is willing to end the relationship over a passive video view, that suggests deeper insecurity or control issues.
Your girlfriend is a bit deranged.
What you do with the information is up to you.