Throwaway because we both use Reddit.
We’ve been together for a while and have been building a life back home we share an apartment and cars together plus other financial obligations. She wanted to go to Australia and I agreed so I paid for half of it.
She bought us tickets to a rugby game but backed out because she was feeling sick and insisted that I just go by myself so the tickets don’t get wasted and to get dinner beforehand. I tried checking in on her before and during the game but she wasn’t answering. I ended up leaving early and when I got back to our room she wasn’t there. She messaged me saying sorry that she didn’t answer or reply sooner but she fell asleep. I played along and confronted her soon as she walked in the door.
She admitted where she was and what she had done.
She told me she had met him on Instagram months ago. They moved to WhatsApp and Snapchat. Would have video calls (nude and sexual) and that she had sent him over 100+ photos and videos. She told me she loves him not me. There was no remorse in how she said it. I ended things instantly. She grabbed some of her things and left so I assume she went to his place.
What advice do you have on what to do next not only with what we share back home but also the fact I paid for half a trip so she could cheat on me.
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Shit, I’d leave her in Australia. The guy can pay for her flight back, I wouldn’t give a fuck.
You did the right thing ending things immediately. Don’t change your mind on that. I would focus on getting your affairs in order. Your financials, the apartment, everything. I would enjoy the time you got in Australia. Hear it’s a good place for single people.
Go home immediately and clear the apartment out?
You’re going to experience a lot of grief and heartache. That’s okay. Thats normal.
You also dodged a bullet. It was better to find out now rather than later.
Start putting plans in place now so that you can make a clean exit.
If you have tied finances, speak to a lawyer asap.
All the best to you.
Leave her here so the Australian men can chew her up and spit her out like the fouls pos she is!
Better to find out now then when you had kids, or youd be part time dad while shes doing this dude. You’ve done right thing ending it. As it was her that cheated, she should do the honorable thing and move out. If you own the house dont budge. The only thing you can do is get legal advise, through a solicitor, for the financial aspect and what your rights are. This is exactly why I just won’t live with anyone again or marry. We can do sleepovers, but what’s mine is mine and what’s yours is yours and my house is my house and im not getting thrown out or loosing half because they cheat. To some its worth the risk, but not for me!
Split finances, move her stuff out your apartment and block her ass
You can’t trust her and shouldn’t.. cut your losses and heal the betrayal before going out again
Wow she used you to pay for half of the trip so she could fuck another guy.
that’s cold.
Might as well enjoy the rest of the trip. Make a tinder account and see if any locals are interested.
Dude assuming this is real you go back home immediately and you proceed in tearing down your life together Cars credit accounts, apartment everything. Then you block her and you do your best to move on with the help of your friends and family
Catch an early flight home. Pack her shit and move it out of the apartment before she returns and change the locks.
In a lot of states if she can prove residency, you have to go through the whole eviction process.
Get home first and move her shit out of the apartment. Split any finances you have in common and get her out of your life.
You have to beat a kangaroo in a fist fight.
You paid for your half. Wtf do you want? How long you been with this 22 year old?
Also, I read this whole thing, its pure Australian. Americans don’t write like this.
Get back and cancel her flight if it’s on your dime. She can take care of her own expenses. Once home pack up all her stuff and leave it with her family or friends and change locks to ensure she can’t get in. Am sorry this happened to you. She had planned this for a while and used you to get there. You deserve better than this.
Not defending the Aussie guy but does he KNOW that she had a boyfriend that helped fund her trip to cheat on you?
Cause if he did, they are both cunts and I’m ashamed that he shares my nationality. I would put him on blast in r/Australia and whatever city sub you’ve traveled to. Probably bad advice legally but I hate it when bastards get away with this shit.
Fuck em. Giving you a virtual hug from Brisbane mate.
She should pay you back for the trip. This is a special kind of evil. Maybe next time you’ll catch the signs of a cheater quicker, but I doubt you’ll trust anyone anytime soon. All you can hope for is Karma catches up to her. Her knew Bo will be her problem from now on. Leave as soon as possible. Cancel the tickets and buy a one way home.
I’d be canceling any plans of hers, for the remainder of the trip, that I had paid for, including plane tickets if they were on my dime. If she wants to do those things, she can fork over her own cash or let her new fling pay to replace them.
And ditto for anything at home. Shared streaming accounts that you pay for? New passwords. She can set her own accounts up. Shared accounts for satellite radio (as most cars have that feature now)? Not anymore. Reconfigure the account so only your subscription is on it.
I’d consider leaving early so I could get home and start separating my own belongings from the general household stuff, in preparation for no longer living together (because for obvious reasons, that’s got to be next).
I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.
Don’t you mean ex-girlfriend?