I recently have been planning a trip with myself and my guy friends, after hearing about my girlfriend’s trip with her girl friends, during the same week.
She has a trip planned which will be 24 hours of pto over Labor Day weekend. And is upset that I am also now planning a trip for the same week, but using 32 hours of pto. Initially she told me she was upset about where the trip was being planned, but after more discussion, she opened up about the idea that I’m using up my pto kinda faster than I’m earning it, and therefor wouldn’t be able to go on future trips for awhile after the trip, or any spur of the moment trips between now and when the trip is planned since I have to save up some pto to go on the trip.
We value the quality time together, but also value allowing the other to dedicate time spent with friends.
Tl;dr: My girlfriend is upset with me for using 8 hours of pto more than her which prevents us from going on trips we want to plan together.
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I think she’s being weird. How much time will you each have left for 2025 after this trip?
It’s one day. How could that possibly mess up multiple trips?
You posted this the other day, what happened to all the advice you got?
Will one vacation day actually make or break any future trips?
I don’t see the big issue. Maybe it bothers her that you’re travelling without her and she knows that’s unreasonable so she’s rationalizing it by making up problems?