Hi everyone,
My husband used to have alcohol and substance abuse. After years of tears and begging and a lot of let downs, I was ready to leave. As I was making a plan for mine and kids escape, he changed overnight and all seemed okay for a while.
Now, there is a new addiction, and I cannot understand if he is sublimating but I am really getting tired of this.
I work for him as a legal employee (he runs a small business) so my finances are tied to him. Recently, he has become obsessed with tik tok battles where 2 creators battle against each other and you send your picked creator gifts (bought with real money) so they can win. The battle lasts 5 minutes but creators can do hours of these battles (this is my best knowledge and understanding of the battles as I’ve never known of them until this issue).
In 2 days he spent $975 (US) or €860…I’m am shocked and speechless at how anyone can throw away this much money on nothing..
In the live stream he chats with them, sends them wink faces and so on. All the tik tok battles he watches are with girls, that obviously flirt and are charming, sweet and funny for a reason. The amount of girls like this he has added in just days is concerning. No shade to what they do, it’s not their fault.
I know it’s nothing ‘serious’ but for some reason the betrayal hurts, and deep. I’ve had previous relationships with cheaters and even though he isn’t cheating it hurts as if he is. For what reason would a married man and father of 2 children need to act like this, chatting to girls online and spending his money left and right ..
Really need some advice, if he gets over this, will there be a new addiction? How can a grown man fall to such things?
P.s. I had an interview today for a job and start Wednesday. Also thinking of opening a separate bank account so he can’t use my money when his is all gone.
Thank you in advance for your advice.