I 27M am in relationship with 24F. We’ve been together for about year and a half. A while ago my partner told me that her new-ish friend 24M gives her footmassages. I asked if the friend was a professional but he isn’t, just gives them because they’re friends. I didn’t ask more questions at that time.
Now my partner confessed to me that she’s sexually attracted towards him. We had a conversation and she wasn’t interested in doing anything with him that would break us apart. They do hang out a lot but they hadn’t done anything sexual according to my partner. But they had kept doing these foot massages. Suddenly she revealed, quite hesitantly, that her friend has a foot fetish. So he got sexual pleasure from all the times he’s massaged my partner’s feet.
Not sure how I feel about this, especially as my partner’s “defense” was that she didn’t find it sexual, only he did.
What would you guys do in this situation?
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This isn’t going to end well brother. Females say this shit all the time. Her minds already checked out and you should be too. If a girl truly respects you she won’t even get a foot massage from a dude in the first place.
Does she really think “but it wasn’t fun for me” would fly if she’d given him a blowjob? She’s into the guy. They’ve been doing intimate stuff together behind your back. That’s cheating. Quit entertaining her efforts to spin why it’s not so bad, and ask yourself if you really want to be with someone who only worries about your feelings when it’s convenient for them.
The fact that you find this situation ambiguous alarms me. Obviously, she gets turned on that her “friend” gets turned on by rubbing her feet. She is literally cheating on you, then lying and gaslighting about it.
If I were you, I’d certainly end this relationship.
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If she knows he sees it as a sexual act and still allows him to do it, then they are doing a sexual act together. It’s cheating.
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My friend charges £500 for pictures of her feet I’m sure she could charge a fair price for him to touch em.
A lot of red flags. You need to investigate more deeply. Dont alert her, just find the evidence and then dump her for cheating. This probably has gone far than what she admits
That is not a normal behavior in a relationship unless it’s an open relationship. I’m sorry but in my opinion if she was sexually attracted to him but wanted to stay in a relationship with you she would immediately stop seeing him when she realised she had this crush on him. You’re not on the same page…unless you want an open relationship.
You should address your concerns once if you haven’t already, and if she keeps entertaining this walk away
Another bullshit story. Next.
EW WHAT
Everything about this is troubling, but I hope you’re making a note about why she’s telling you all of this? Since it already happened… hanging out with him, letting him get off from her feet. Looks like she might be laying the foundation to break up or flat out tell you she already cheated on you or will start cheating on you. Good luck
What does Marcellus Wallis look like?
Pulp Fiction. Ask Marcellus Wallace how to handle a man giving your a girl a foot massage.
Babe, he just sucks my toes platonically don’t be so immature and controlling. I mean of course I’m attracted to him and he totally has a foot fetish so it’s basically fucking for him but GOD YOU ARE SO IMMATURE AND INSECURE.
Bro leave her lmao she’s getting sexually physical with another man who she admitted she is attracted to and gaslighting you over the severity of this. This is literally cheating and she thinks you’re a gullible pushover she can manipulate you into inadvertently allowing her a side piece.
I’m sorry you waster a year and a half on this person but you cannot break up with them soon enough.
What would I do in this situation? I can’t fathom being that naive and empty headed to where my chick is letting another man rub her feet that she wants to bang and I’m asking for advice. My advice to you would be to make sure she brushes his dick outta her mouth before kissing you next.
If you haven’t seen Pulp Fiction – watch the foot massage scene. Foot massages are definitely intimate.
https://youtu.be/BsfIB98b-8c?si=ymGEpAAImMZtIzIM
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Either this is fake or you are the biggest moron in the world. There are no questions here. The moment you break up that foot massage is going to become a full body.
It’s weird how your partner is okay with someone else getting turned on by her feet… and she knows about it too. It just feels like she’s not fully into the relationship, or maybe she doesn’t even see what’s going on. What makes you think this isn’t a bigger issue than just foot massages?
OP, this is weird and borderline cheating. It’s time to have a serious conversation with her.
Ick. Do you really want to stay with her knowing she gets off to the fact that he gets off to massaging her feet, and she continues to do it? I think I would dump her.
She’s attracted to him, he has a foot fetish, so she lets him give her foot massages. All of this is bad. She’s not your girl, you’re just her guy for now.
This dude probably does this with an erection the whole time, does that seem OK. I don’t think so. Maybe it’s just me.
this reminds me of the convo juls and vincent have about foot rubs in pulp fiction
imo id consider this cheating already in my relationship
Just leave bro. She goes out to get her feet massaged from someone who isnt even experienced and she even admits she is sexually atrracted to him?? How many red flags do you need? She lets him get pleased willingly, sooner or later he will return the favor.
Convince her to have him give you a foot massage. Then, definitely break up with her. Depending on how good the foot massage is, of course.
Tell her to stop cheating…
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Find a female friend who loves to give handys. And see how she feels
Hell no. She’s admitted she’s attracted and let’s him use her feet to get off. Disgusting.
I would let them enjoy life together because I certainly wouldn’t stick around for it. I wouldn’t personally engage in any act that the other person gets sexual gratification from unless I was either into it or got paid (if I was into that kind of business).
This is cheating. 🥺
It’s an intimate act regardless of how either see it. How does she see it as ok?
Ciao cocao!
It’s understandable to feel uneasy when someone you care about is engaging in intimate acts with another person, even if they claim it’s not sexual for them, it still creates a boundary that feels violated, and the fact that your partner is comfortable with this dynamic raises serious questions about her loyalty and honesty. What do you think would happen if you confronted her directly about how she justifies this to herself?