My friend Daja about two years back got into a relationship with my friend Kevin. Now Kevin is not a good partner to say the least lol, good friend but the last person you want a relationship with.
So two years ago when they met at a party I was hosting she started catching feelings easily. I told him, girl no that you don’t want to be with him but she insisted. I told him that she should just stay with her boyfriend brother Kevin is a serial cheater, he manipulates woman he’s with, and lowkey abusive. She didn’t listen to me, dumped her boyfriend with a quickness to be with Kevin. Which made Kevin feel great because he likes to go after people in relationships. I told her whatever happens don’t expect me to stop talking to him when he inevitably does it to you.
That’s what he did. The relationship he cheated and then it delved into an abusive relationship… She finally got out of there after he went too far. Now that they broke up she’s angry I’m still friends with him…Even after I warned her before she started dating him. I said he only goes after people he knows he can manipulate and he’s really good at reading people. He will literally tell me, nah she won’t go for my BS but this person will. It’s crazy lol. I told her I would call her today, so any advice would be good.
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Two thoughts. One, she doesn’t get to police who you’re friends with. Two, you have some shit people for friends.
You should be not talking to this guy for yourself, not your friend. Why do you give someone who is a perpetual abuser the time of day? Just because he doesn’t abuse you…?
I mean. She doesn’t get to demand you end a friendship. But why the hell would you want to be friends with such a horrible person? He abuses women. You should cut him out of your life for that, and it’s pathetic your friend has to be the one to point this out. Have some self respect.
It’s one thing to know ur friend is an asshole and still be around them but it’s a next to entertain and enable behavior. U still being around him and creating a space comfortable enough for him to say those nasty things is a reflection of who U are. Ur friend Daja, though she got the warning, nobody deserves that. EHS