I have been friends with M for 11 years now, and we would rarely had fights. She has a bf (38M) with whom she has been in a relationship with for 4 years. Behind my back, she started an affair with a co-worker (28M) and kept it well hidden from her bf as well. However, one day, the entire situation was exposed in front of her bf and I. He forgave her and they moved on. After a month, I had to be in the vicinity of this co-worker. Since we are on friendly terms, I casually asked him if he had known about M’s bf while having the affair.
He was shocked and told me that they are still in the relationship and she never mentioned having a bf. He broke down crying since they were already together for five months at this point and he had started really liking her. I realised I had accidentally exposed her.
The co-worker confronted her, and she denied everything, while throwing some extremely nasty insults at me and proceeded to block me. She also brainwashed her bf into sending insensitive texts to me.
Now I am feeling depressed since I had no part in this, but she keeps bullying me one way or the other. I am feeling lost and don’t know how to handle this situation. Can anyone give me some advice?
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Block and delete both her and her secondary bf I guess. Tell all your friends and family so they can help guard you.
She is a crappy person and the coworker bf is an idiot. You gave him an out, and he doubled down on a relationship with a nasty woman.
If she keeps bothering you, get a restraining order.
What is going on is she is gaslighting her boyfriend to believe you are the problem, not her and her cheating ways. So you block them both, unfollow them everywhere, don’t respond to anything, and it should all go away soon enough. Bullies need attention and when tend to move on when they don’t get it.
By the way, this is a blessing for you. It turns out both these people are not worthy of your friendship. Good riddance! It will hurt for a while, but keep living your life and you will find other friends with better integrity.
well look she’s in the wrong but it kinda sounds like you were getting invovled by trying to expose her with both the bf and the guy she is cheating with
If you work together, go speak to HR and explain the situation. Your ex friend is creating a hostile work environment. Updateme
She doesn’t sound like a good person. Update the bf on the situation.
She’s trash. You’d be amazed at how much you’re life will improve once you cut her off. Go NC on her bf too (eta) if they keep bothering you press charges