For the first year of our relationship she was obsessed, I would say smitten with me. The way she would look at me, touch me constantly, I really felt like her world. Fast forward to January 2025 and she completely shut down. Since then most days I’ve been fighting to reconnect. Her attitude is cold and incredibly distant. Every time I tell her that I don’t feel like she likes me anymore. She gets angry immediately. And then that’s the night. Just ignoring me throughout and no interest to fix it. She blames it on being pregnant and tired. But she’s only 2 months pregnant and this has been going on since January. I honestly feel like if I gave up trying to fix it I just wouldn’t hear/see her again. And I don’t think she would ever realise that she lost me and would make any attempt to resolve the issue. I have tried and tried to talk to her about what this is doing to me but nothing.
TL:DR: How do I make her realise that I can’t take it anymore? Thank you
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I feel like a broken record here: COUPLES COUNSELING. This is above reddit’s pay grade, and you need to be taking it to a professional.
I would be pushing for couples therapy. If she is not open to that, I would be stopping all ideas of moving toward a wedding and initiating conversations about what a co-parenting relationship could look like.
Does this happen mostly with simple conversations? I can’t offer any advice, but me and my bf are in this situation. It always starts with simple little tasks like laundry, loading the dishwasher, and sometimes in a conversation. What i’m going to start doing is distancing myself. I won’t initiate conversations and keep it to bare minimum. Being in a separate room, keeping myself busy as I can. Until things calm down, because I think feeling burnt out from someone can be the root cause. It may not be that she doesn’t like you but she may reach her limit “I’ve had it” a lot easier and quicker. The pregnancy could have been the cherry on top to how she was already feeling. People need room and space if they can change or come to conclusions.