I’m currently being ghosted/ have been ghosted by my (31F) boyfriend (35M). We’ve been dating for almost 2 years.. the last thing he told me was that we’d FaceTime during his days off 2 weeks ago. I was waiting for his call, and it never happened. He never reached out. All my messages and calls have gone unanswered for the past 2 weeks. Given that we’re LDR, I can’t show up to his place unannounced as I’m based in Malaysia and he’s in Saudi.
We did not fight prior to the ghosting, instead things were all lovey dovey. I’m emotionally wrecked at the moment. I’ve verified that he’s well and doing okay by speaking to his friend.
Initially I thought moving on would be easy given that the disrespect he’s shown, and my logical brain knows that moving on is the best course of action, and to treat his silence as closure
But the emotional side of me wants closure. I’m not sure what to do. Part of me wants to be strong for myself and move on, yet I find myself breaking down crying at random moments. I’m trying my best to distract myself with activities and surrounding myself with friends. But once I’m back home, I find myself breaking down crying.
What should I do?
TL; DR: Boyfriend (M35) of 2 years has been ghosting me. I need help figuring out what’s next.
Comments
Did his friend give you some more information? Or just told you that he’s fine?
Do you hear yourself? He’s ghosted you for 2 weeks but kept in contact with his friend. That’s your closure right there. No answer is an answer. Sorry, but don’t invest anymore emotional time on him than what he even deserves.