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My daughter was very adamant about giving these boys up for adoption. I was okay with whatever she decided
She’s said before that she was somewhat scared of ending up like me. I got pregnant with her when I was 16 as well and struggled my way through the end of high school. My parents paid for my university education when I turned 21 and I found out I was pregnant again with my son in my sophomore year. My kids dad abused me and cheated on me all the time, even had a kid 3 weeks after our son was born. I found out about that the day the baby was born, right before he hit me for the last time in front of our kids. We lived together in a trailer park that he left me in with our children after his baby was born. One month postpartum, alone with a 5 year old and a newborn.
I was never ashamed of raising my kids in a trailer park because they always had a village. There were always trustworthy neighbors when I worked the night shift at the diner, or when I ran out to classes and my baby was sick at home. I grew up in a rich neighborhood with picket fences and lawn chairs, but what my kids never knew didn’t hurt them. When I met their stepdad, I was in my last year of university and I fell madly in love. We bought a house together later that year and got married. He and the kids are best friends and he’s a great dad to our 5 year old daughter and his step kids.
I understand that how I got to where I am was painful, but I made it through, bruise by bruise. Tear by tear. I’m a marine biologist and my husband is a software engineer. We live in a beautiful house and are even considering having another baby after a miscarriage 2 years ago. It hurts me that she may even think that my story derailed because of her or my life isn’t something I’m proud of. I thought she would be proud of knowing that there’s life after any struggle or pain she may endure.
Now, she’s given the babies to a family she knows has been struggling to have children. They have decided to christen the boys and have asked my daughter to be the godmother. They told her if something were to happen to them, she’d get them back. She’s been over to babysit as well.
I don’t know how comfortable I am with that arrangement. I know she’s almost an adult, but she’s decided to graduate early and stay home for university, so she’s gonna be my baby for a bit longer. I think this arrangement could blur a lot of lines and it worries me that she gets too attached to an idea, and it throw her off the path she’s on. She only has her stepfather and I, her dad has been icing her out since the pregnancy, and I have no idea what to tell her. I told her I’d think about it, but I thought I’d bring it here first to see what advice I could get
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Backup of the post’s body: TW: DA, Miscarriage mentioned.
My daughter was very adamant about giving these boys up for adoption. I was okay with whatever she decided
She’s said before that she was somewhat scared of ending up like me. I got pregnant with her when I was 16 as well and struggled my way through the end of high school. My parents paid for my university education when I turned 21 and I found out I was pregnant again with my son in my sophomore year. My kids dad abused me and cheated on me all the time, even had a kid 3 weeks after our son was born. I found out about that the day the baby was born, right before he hit me for the last time in front of our kids. We lived together in a trailer park that he left me in with our children after his baby was born. One month postpartum, alone with a 5 year old and a newborn.
I was never ashamed of raising my kids in a trailer park because they always had a village. There were always trustworthy neighbors when I worked the night shift at the diner, or when I ran out to classes and my baby was sick at home. I grew up in a rich neighborhood with picket fences and lawn chairs, but what my kids never knew didn’t hurt them. When I met their stepdad, I was in my last year of university and I fell madly in love. We bought a house together later that year and got married. He and the kids are best friends and he’s a great dad to our 5 year old daughter and his step kids.
I understand that how I got to where I am was painful, but I made it through, bruise by bruise. Tear by tear. I’m a marine biologist and my husband is a software engineer. We live in a beautiful house and are even considering having another baby after a miscarriage 2 years ago. It hurts me that she may even think that my story derailed because of her or my life isn’t something I’m proud of. I thought she would be proud of knowing that there’s life after any struggle or pain she may endure.
Now, she’s given the babies to a family she knows has been struggling to have children. They have decided to christen the boys and have asked my daughter to be the godmother. They told her if something were to happen to them, she’d get them back. She’s been over to babysit as well.
I don’t know how comfortable I am with that arrangement. I know she’s almost an adult, but she’s decided to graduate early and stay home for university, so she’s gonna be my baby for a bit longer. I think this arrangement could blur a lot of lines and it worries me that she gets too attached to an idea, and it throw her off the path she’s on. She only has her stepfather and I, her dad has been icing her out since the pregnancy, and I have no idea what to tell her. I told her I’d think about it, but I thought I’d bring it here first to see what advice I could get
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