I went on a business trip to Spain from the states with my two bosses (one woman and male). We decided to have dinner and after the male boss and I went for drinks at a bar. We ended up meeting people at the bar to chat and we chatted about life etc. note, I’m 37 and my boss is 60! I have NOOO romantic feelings toward this man. Long story short we ended at the hotel around 4:30-5 ish. I’ve always been very communicative and honest with my bf. I was texting him through out the night too. I’ve also been in many business trips with my male boss before so I’m not understanding the issue all of a sudden… truly I’m really sorry for hurting my bf and I apologized. Now my bf is saying he’s grossed out and disgusted by me for putting myself in a situation where I couldn’t say no. I swear on my late father that I NEVER go out. Ever. This is the first time I’ve ever gone out and stayed out this late and it was absolutely innocent. Every time I tried to explain myself via text my bf said I’m making excuses after excuses. I don’t know what else to say … a four year relationship to end this way and no chance for me to speak my peace. I’m really hurt and tomorrow we are supposed to meet to talk but that’s basically our goodbye…
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Could this have been building from other things? Or does he just have really bad insecurities perhaps?
I’m confused. He’s upset because you had drinks with your boss? Or he thinks something else happened (cheating)? If it’s the former, then I think he is looking for a reason to break up. Maybe he’s cheating or maybe he’s got other issues and wants an excuse to end the relationship.