I’ve been in the service for about 16yrs and have sensitive ears. Its a super pet peeve of mine that people eat in my ear while they are talking on the phone, or side bar conversations. I have asked repeatedly not to do, and idk if its a crazy request or not, but unfortunately I just can’t deal with it. Im not to the point where Im going to go insane. I understand in some situations you have to drink or say something to your kids or people or whatever; that is totally understandable.
I miss her, but I refuse to call because I feel like you disrespected my boundaries on purpose knowing how I am. She would sometimes do it because she thought it was funny, but it really bugged me. The day I told her to give me a call back she had a piss poor attitude and sent me a text saying it wasnt even 5 minutes and she just had to finish what she put in her mouth and that I shouldn’t have gotten off the phone, I should have taken it away from my ear. I feel like dont call me and then decide to eat.
She doesn’t like people walking on her floor with shoes and said it was different. I was super confused and told her it isn’t. She doesn’t like to apologize. She has a hard time with it. What would you do in this situation? Keep friendship or let it go
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If somebody makes food noises within my hearing, I fantasize about committing the perfect murder. I understand that rage well.
She’s doing this intentionally. You aren’t overreacting. She has a choice: to not to eat while on the phone with you, or to never speak on the phone with you. The ball is in her court.
Hi OP, this sounds like a situation where both parties could have reacted differently. I think you did the best thing you could about placing that boundary, may I suggest when you ask people not to eat in your ear when on the phone, that you will follow it up by ending the call. Boundaries work best when you follow up with an action placed with it. This boundary will get walked over, sometimes maliciously and sometimes without intention, life happens. It sounds like she called you first ? If that’s the case, she could have easily finished her food and then called you, it sounds like she isn’t good at acknowledging and apologising when she does something wrong and OP it is not your job to forgive someone for disrespecting your boundary just because they have a hard time with it, that’s your friend’s responsibility not yours. I’d try speaking with her again, sounds like via phone calls is the norm here, if you could speak to her in person that might help break the tension a little, if she continues to not acknowledge where she went wrong and apologise, I’d reconsider the friendship because it sounds like she doesn’t understand or respect you.
does your friend have an eating disorder? if she gets on those glp1s your problem will be solved.
come from a place of care and love. whenever you call me you’re eating. i am worried your relationship with food may be unhealthy. they have medicine for that now
Misophonia is real and it can send people into a full blown rage in the worst circumstances, pausing a conversation is reasonable, especially since you’ve mentioned the issue before. But it doesn’t seem like a friendship ending problem. What exactly are you wanting an apology for, and why?
Drive me nuts when people
Eat n talk or chew loudly while eating n chomping away ..like wtffffffff
Do you called her when she was eating and hang up because you were annoyed??