My 40/F partner 50/M has ED. Seven years of zero physical intimacy is taking its toll.

I’ve 40/F been in a sexless relationship with 50/M for seven years. SEVEN YEARS. He has ED. When we first got together, he was able to perform once or twice. I gave him plenty of bjs at the beginning, too, but I was never touched. He said he doesn’t like to give oral. I stopped the bjs immediately when he said that because I was feeling used. Fast forward seven years, and nothing has changed. No sex, no play, no toys. Nothing beyond a peck on the lips here and there. He says he had many physical relationships in his 20s – 40s, and I get to hear about that while getting nothing. I know ED is an extremely sensitive topic for men, but I’ve put up with it for so long and I just can’t imagine going the rest of my life never feeling physical intimacy again. I’ve already given 7 years. Like … why nothing? I’d be fine with no penetration if there was something — anything — else. He did get Viagra a few years ago but that lead to nothing whatsoever. Deep down, I think he just isn’t into me physically but wants the security of having me around. Maybe he’d be willing to be make the effort to be physical with someone else he found super attractive. How do I approach this conversation with him in a sensitive manner?

TL;DR! Partner has ED which has led to a seven year relationship with absolutely zero physical intimacy. I can’t go the rest of my life with zero intimacy. I’d work around the ED but I don’t think he is attracted enough to me to make the effort. How do I have this conversation with him in a sensitive manner?