Soo me and mom on saturday went to her mothers house basically my nani ka ghar and then my younger cousins one is turning 12 yr old (boy)on monday and one is 8yr old (girl)
Soo at night me and my mother were sleeping in the corners and my brother in between
I was in my half sleep when i felt his hand sneaking in my shorts at first i thought by mistake hogya hoga but then he suddenly grabbed my breast and started removing my bra he then grabbed and played with my breast then he tried to pull down my shorts but first he insured that i was asleep he kicked me two times to be sure that i was asleep and he doesn’t get caught then he pulled down my shorts and grabbed my a** then i felt something weird as if he was trying to get his d into me at the back but he could do so
Then he sneaked his hands and tried to touch my vag and then someone came into our room and he pulled his hands away
I was in my half sleep this whole time but I couldn’t say a word because i was to shocked to even tell this too my mother i never thought something like this would happen to me
I told my mother and his mother and ofc
His mother blamed his assault to hormones
That it happens . Tbh i am kind of worried about my lil sister because if he has the courage to do this shit with his 5 years older sister then he can do this with his younger sister and she would be helpless and she doesnt know anything about this
Idk what i should do ?please helpp
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This is extremely serious.
He needs therapy.
You’re right to be worried.
What happened is serious. Make sure you and your sister are safe.
Im so so sorry this happened to you, hormones are not an excuse to do this to someone. Im so lost for words right now.
I’m so sorry that this was excused. If your mother is excusing this behavior you need to talk to another trusted adult. Maybe your grandmother or a teacher or family friend. This is incredibly serious and I’m so sorry. You were assaulted and this needs to be taken more seriously.
Didnt ‘try’ to touch you, he did touch you. That kid needs help & a bloody good talking too.
Im sorry you had to experience this. Do you think he would have stopped had you moved when he “made sure” you were asleep? My number one suggestion would be to confront him head on in front of everyone so that he can see how unacceptable it is not only to you but to everyone. Do not let it pass for another day as he will think he got away with it and do it again with you or someone else.
I hope I don’t come across as rude or blaming I’m genuinely curious as to why you would not immediately get up and try to leave? How come you allowed him to go on for so long? I understand shock and that everyone reacts to scary/traumatising things in different ways but I feel like the natural reaction would be at least saying something or letting him know you’re not asleep?
Regardless of that, you need to tell someone immediately and someone that will believe you. Your sister and yourself need to be safe from this, tell everyone that’s an adult in your family until someone listens and takes you serious because this could escalate and we want to prevent that, I’m so sorry this happened to you.
I’m so sorry this happened to you and I’m really afraid your sister maybe has been a victim of
This too.. have a talk with your younger sister and explain to her that anyone touching her without consent is wrong and make sure to openly talk about it with the family members in front of him so he feels embarrassed and stops..
Yikes. Are you desi?
Kids really need to be protected. They go through this shit more of then than you think and they dont even know what it is. Is there anyone else you trust to tell this to like an adult. Idk how your mom reacted. But if she sees no issue with it then im sorry but id blame her too. Ik its a tricky situation and it might stick to you for a long time. Id say do whatever you feel like to deal with it cuz otherwise it will haunt you for years. Also talk to your sister because it may have already happened to her and she doesn’t know what it is. And the audacity while your mother was right there too astonishes me. And the fact that he is 12 and already knows things..
that’s seriously messed up and no one should brush that off like it’s no big deal. You gotta talk to someone who can help, like a counselor or a trusted adult who actually takes it seriously.
this is serious thing that might lead into much more serious consequences. He needs therapy or counceling. I hope you guys are safe.
He might be already SAing the younger sister, tell another trusted adult
I’m assuming you’re desi based on the word choices, I’m sorry this happened and I know how overlooked these issues are in our community. Hormones are no excuse, it’s not your fault at all. Try and talk to someone who you trust. When I was little my older sisters taught me all about consent and what to do if it were to happen to me, I suggest you do the same for your sister so it won’t happen to her
yo first of all i’m so sorry you went through that. that’s not normal, not “hormones,” that’s straight up assault. you’re right to be worried about your little sister, because if he did it once and got away with it, he might do it again. you need to protect yourself and her. talk to an adult you trust (not his mom, she’s clearly not taking it seriously) or even reach out to child protection services. this isn’t something you can ignore or hope will stop, it’s serious and he needs real help. you did nothing wrong btw, you’re really brave for speaking up.
When I was 12 I used to eat sand damn times changes soo fast
So for those confused, her cousin is 12 years old and she is 17, she’s from India and some of the words in the post are in hindi.
To op, I’m very sorry it happened to you. It must have been very traumatizing. I encourage you to convince your mother and other adults to give your cousin brother some psychiatric help because this is not normal and very dangerous.
I also encourage you to see a psychiatrist and talk about what happened. It helps, really, it does.
Woah that’s fucked. If they passively ignore this then they are seriously failing as parents. They’re failing you, your sister, and your brother. I’m so sorry. This is not normal. Hormones alone do not cause this massive escalation in behavior. Either someone has taught him this is okay and/or no one has bothered to teach him what he’s doing and what it means. If gone unchecked he could be a very real and dangerous threat to your family and beyond. Thank you for keeping your sister in mind, someone needs to protect her and I’m both pissed off and relieved she has 1 person that seriously cares about her. I wish you had the same, you’re damn strong. This is passive neglect on their part and that’s scary. “Boys will be boys” won’t hold up in a court for him one day.
If you have any sway in the family situation, don’t let this go. He needs a talking to. He can’t grow up thinking things like that are OK.
He is very exposed to sensitive and inappropriate content. He might have created these fantasies watching porn videos.
Honestly don’t know what to say other than I’d tell the parents after I’d beat the snot out of him
Well, this is coming from someone who has been through the same thing.
And believe me at the moment you might be confused between telling your parents and creating chaos between two families and also about the acts of your brother and many more but…
be it due to hormones or any reasons such as some lonely past experiences or at worst well thought attempt to touch, at the end you and only you have to fight it through. If you let it go once, it will happen again. If not with you then with someone other. Moreover you letting it pass would become a trauma for you.
From my pov, you must, strictly, forbid your brother from trying anything in future and also warn him that you are not going to take it lightly. And most importantly, dont say i wont let it pass the next time… it creates an image that you are bound to let it pass this time. Scold him.
As a boy, even if it’s your brother,he must learn how to act. Intrusive actions are no excuse to hormones. He needs to know whats a good touch and what’s a bad touch. Talking of it, make him aware that from wherever he is getting the ideas that he can do such deeds and smartly get away(mostly porn) are places built to monetize men’s lust and in turn hampers your real life pictures.
Stay safe and don’t let an incident affect you to core.
I have done this and i blame the hormones too
I’m so sorry you had to experience something so traumatic. What happened to you is not your fault, and it’s incredibly brave that you told your mother. It’s very concerning that your brother’s actions were minimized assault is never just “hormones” and should never be excused.
You have every right to feel scared and worried for your younger sister too. It’s important to protect both yourself and her. Please try to reach out to a trusted adult outside your immediate family maybe another relative you trust, a teacher, counselor, or even a helpline. You all deserve to feel safe in your own home.
You’re not alone, and you deserve support, protection, and healing. Please prioritize your safety first.
Ummm why did you let it get past him sneaking inside of your shorts? If you were half asleep you definitely woke up after feeling him touch you. Why did you let it continue bc I would have jumped tf up and got loud in that room! This is beyond unacceptable and usually when children do acts like this they have been taught this type of behavior so definitely I agree that you should confront him in front of your mom and also I would have a real sit down and ask where he learned such behavior because what?? Someone could be touching him you know what I mean?
how old is your brother? 😳
You’re very right to worry about his sister.
This may be extreme, but you can in fact press charges against a twelve year old. He could be charged with sexual assault, since you didn’t consent. Since he’s young, he would lie, and plead innocent, getting him a longer juvenile detention sentence.
Nah man what the actual fuck
Hiii, so first of all his behaviour cannot under any circumstances be blamed on hormones. Hormones do not make you loose your ability to differentiate right and wrong in this case good touch and bad touch. You did the right thing telling your mum and his mum but if they don’t do anything then it’s up to you to ensure your own safety. Try telling another trusted adult and maybe even talk to the boy. Try explaining to him the difference between good touch and bad touch and teach him about consent. Next teach ur sister about good touch bad touch. She is old enough to learn. You need to explain to her that it’s not wrong to want personal space and that if she says no, no one will blame her. I’m so sorry this happened to you and I hope it doesn’t happen to your sister or anyone actually. Please talk to them both separately. If the boy still continues then tell his father. Mums don’t do shit dad’s do sometimes. If his dad doesn’t do anything and he still continues then you need to step up and protect yourself and ur sister. Rn it’s the right age for him to understand this concept and not continue. If no one talks to him about it then god knows what will happen in the future so please talk to him and ur sister.
As someone abused by a sibling. I would recommend going to the poilce, it is not normal for a 12 year old to be aware of what this is. He needs therapy and your little sister needs the chance to be protected from him. Your response to what happened is normal. But please speak to the police. Your mum was unwilling and unable to help.
I would not blame the boy too much. This is the result of bad parenting. Kids need to be taught what is right and wrong, or they won’t be much different from animals. Especially boys who will be interested in girls and be stronger than them. They will have a curiosity towards women and their bodies. It is time to have “the talk” full-blown sex education and make very sure that it is not okay to touch anyone in that way or there will be severe consequences.
OP, if this happens again, you need to scream, scare the living 💩 out of him, and create consequences he can’t escape from. It will be the only way for him to learn. If you let it happen, it will continue and get way worse.
This is serious because he wasn’t scared tondo this he went for a lot. I know you are scared and it’s family I understand your situation but to save another girl from going through this, tell your mother seriously. This is very important. I’m so sorry you have a disgusting “brother”
I think this is the time when u should raise ur voice against ur brother .He can do these again with u .
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If he doesn’t get a response of anger and get in trouble he will have no reason to think this is not ok.
You were violated. And your bro needs help. You need to contact the authority’s! He needs to be in therapy/maybe trouble for his actions. They’re NOT acceptable!! And the fact that the older ladies are brushing it off, NO NO NO! There is zero excuses for sexually assaulting another! GO GET HELP! Prevention is the best thing, you’re looking out for the younger siblings, it might have already happened so GET HELP NOW!
She is raising a rapist. He needs intervention NOW but her pretending it doesn’t exist is creating a problem. Is there any other adult you can tell this to? You were sexually assaulted kid or not
Hi, had something similar to me and since it has been mostly dismissed it messed me up so bad it put me in a mental hospital. You need to talk to a trusted adult like yesterday. This needs to be handled. You should not have to put up with this. This was assault, and on a minor no less, possible attempted stuff as well. This is not okay.
If you’re able to talk to your PCP, if you have one, let them know what happened and that you’re scared for yours and others safety. If needed, don’t even say it’s someone related to you, say it was a complete stranger. If this happens again do not be scared to defend yourself. Bite, scream, yell if you have to. Just obviously try not to kill the guy if it’s preventable.
Once again, to reiterate. This is not normal and not okay. He assaulted you. Please talk to someone and get help cause this can mess you up. Your brother needs help as well. Hormones are NO excuse for this. I am so sorry this happened to you.
You were sexually assaulted and that child and the mother need to be held accountable. That is disgusting and will likely escalate.
This happened to me but it was my cousin, I was 16 and he was 14. He f!ngered me and he had long nails so he scratched me up pretty bad. We were “sleeping” and I just froze, it was painful but I didn’t know what to do and I figured it wasn’t grape or anything because he was younger than me and just “trying to experience things”. I told my family and a lot thought I was lying but my parents both had my back and had a sit down with my cousin and his parents. My family now is very cautious and won’t even let my younger brother sleep in the same room as my younger sister. I know it’s crazy but something can always happen.
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He needs to be talked to. Ask the help of an elder to solve it. This needs to be solved before he thinks it is normal and fine and gets in trouble.
How old is he?
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Why would , your mother , let a boy sleep between the two of you to start with? Especially at his house where I imagine he has his own bed .
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What’s wrong with kids these day? Why are getting bad day by day?
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You say he is your brother and he’s 5yrs old. Then you said “if he has the courage to do this to his 5yrs older sister…” how old are you then, 10?
Mothers like his are the reason many men are predators and sexual offenders. That kid needs serious treatment or he’ll grow up thinking he can get away with anything he likes
Hold on. Kids act out trauma. The fact he did this to you his older sister is traumatic enough.
I’d sit him down and ask him what’s really going on. I’d talk to the younger sibling too.
Your mother’s response is denial. She knows.
This sounds like he’s watching stuff and thinking that’s how things work even in real life, you know the stuff.
If they won’t deal with him you most definitely should, if not for you at least for your sister and for him before he becomes absolutely crazy which he already is if he had the nerve to proceed with these thoughts.
Also have a kid friendly talk with your sister about body boundaries and that stuff you can find some good resources in conscious parenting groups under sexual education and let her know she can come to you if anything ever happens or if she wants to talk about anything.
Me personally, i was the younger sister weird stuff happened to but if I were you, I would humiliate him which I honestly think is what fixes this…talking and all that passive correction is too gentle for what he just did, that works for when he has just shown weird signs but he went ahead and harassed you
I say take him to the police so they scare him, cops in my country sometimes will do that for you if a kid is too much trouble just tell them he’s misbehaving and briefly tell them what he’s doing you can even frame it as someone else if you don’t want yourself on spot, they can scare him and he can see where people like him end up.
Then also let him know how much he has hurt you and how what he has done has tainted how you feel, he needs to hold the weight of his action and know how selfish it is or else he will always be self serving.
wonder who’s been touching him?
What…the..fu*k. I think this happens in a lot more brown house holds than we hear about.
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If a 5 year old is doing this, it’s probably because he himself is being abused by someone.
Time you grew up and admitted what he did. I would start with a direct approach h on him telling him what you will Do to him if he ever thinks to touch you, or your sister.
Then talk to your mother and tell her to not bring up hormones as that’s a crock, talk about it in front of her and him and tell them you can get the cops involved.
He is revolting and needs to be taught what consequences are
something weird with this story
You need to tell someone
Better to nip it now before it becomes an actual issue
I feel like my daughter has some past trauma but she won’t talk about it
Loo this is fake and written by a boy not the so called sister
Lol this story is fake AF like the tiktoks of people “sleeping” in a brightly lit room while someone does… Whatever to them
What is your age
Doesnt make sense. I will never discount anyones interactions but all of this sounds made up. He kicked you twice to make sure you were asleep but you knew he kicked you twice. Then as basically an adult you somehow allowed the rest if it is true. One would have stopped him at the kick.
Half asleep woulda turned wide awake unless drunk or high.
I dont understand why you didnt stop him in the beginning only
5??? hell naw
Immediate action is required to address the underlying issues of punishment and treatment, ensuring that the individual does not learn to feign change or become incapable of genuine transformation. It is also imperative that the mother acknowledges her responsibility in this situation. Her tendency to dismiss the matter raises concerns about potential prior incidents that may have influenced her response. It is plausible that she has consulted with acquaintances who trivialized the situation as mere hormonal fluctuations, leaving her uncertain about how to proceed. Regardless, intervention within this child’s home environment is essential, as the mother’s nonchalant attitude towards the situation and her reluctance to investigate the root causes—potentially involving the molestation of her own child—constitutes a form of neglect. Furthermore, if molestation is not the issue, it is possible that she has permitted her child to be exposed to inappropriate content, either through direct observation or online access, or has allowed the child to be in the company of individuals who facilitate such exposure. This, too, represents neglect. While one might argue that she may have been unaware of these occurrences, it is evident that she is now recognizing that something is amiss, and it is not simply a matter of typical hormonal changes.
If he knew he got caught i would think that the embarrassment plus the ass beating would be enough to deter future behavior. Does he have a dad? Even if not, just talking about how gross incest is and showing him pictures of incest babies with deformities should be enough to make him internalize disgust for this type of thing. Also, let him know how long people go to jail for for sexual assault
I don’t understand cousin or brother?? But these situations need immediate response
Lm m atleast a slap or two also asked him maybe he was molested or surely he was
Dots or feathers?
Girl you had every right to smack him right then and there. S**t, I would’ve. You’re not getting away with that. And I’d blast him if I had to. That is very inappropriate and disgusting. That was attempted SA.
It’s always boys will be boys or oh my God it’s just hormones, you’re overacting. It’s just one of the many sick things wrong with society. I’m sorry you had to go through that and you need to get your sister out of there like ASAP…
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May I ask why you didn’t stop him when he first started?
I can’t help but think to blame your parents, this kid has clearly gotten a hold of porn somehow— or worse, has been molested. As a young child you don’t just think to do shit like this unless you’ve seen it..