I have an aunt and cousin who have always hated me and aren’t afraid to show it. I always attempted to kill them with kindness because I knew the truth would come out someday. Well the truth came out when they dared me to post “the truth” on social media. So I did. 🤷🏼♀️ I got so much support that the post spread like crazy. Here are a few things I called them out on:
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I took off work and spent $500 to fly to my cousin’s wedding. When I showed up, I realized I was the only family member who didn’t get a seat at the family table at the reception (Yes, I RSVP’d). So I spent the entire night sitting alone as people walked by me asking me why I wasn’t sitting with my brother, his wife, and my parents.
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I adopted my daughter from foster care. I asked them why they aren’t nice to her. They said because it’s weird for me to bring “a stranger” to family events. Seriously? Don’t attack my daughter for being adopted. She’s been through enough.
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They accused me of not raising my daughter because my mom watches her when I’m at work. My mom gets paid by daughter’s insurance to watch her due to the severity of her special needs. If it wasn’t my mom (my daughter’s grandma) watching her, then it would be a random staff member watching her while I’m at work. I asked how that differs from having a babysitter. They said “because your daughter is older and shouldn’t need a babysitter.” Again, my daughter has special needs and trained staff have to watch her. And I need to have a job. I’m sorry that my mom is willing to watch her granddaughter and my aunt is not willing to watch hers. 🤷🏼♀️
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They told me to stop posting photos of my daughter on Facebook. I asked why they’re allowed to post photos of their kids, but I’m not. They said it’s because mom’s are allowed to post photos of their own kids. Again, they don’t consider my daughter “my kid” because she’s adopted.
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They said I adopted my daughter “all for show.” 🤬Which is absolute bullshit. I fostered her before adopting her and very few people knew because I wasn’t allowed to talk about her case. So there was no show there. Not to mention I’m a single mom who sacrificed A LOT to adopt my daughter and it is not an easy life. Anyone who has adopted from foster care or has a special needs child knows it’s hard and certainly not worth “the show.”
AITAH for publicly putting them on blast after they dared me to? I don’t think they expected me to actually do it. I definitely know they didn’t expect the abundance of support I would get as people in my small town shared the post… oops 🙊
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Good heavens. NTA….they are not healthy for you or your child.
Sounds like they just experienced FAFO!
NTA and good for you. Be sure to update us as things progress and spread. I’m sure at some point you’ll have people reaching out to you with lies they had been told about you by aunt and cousin.
NTA
This comes under the heading of: people in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones.
NTA. Today’s Lesson: Don’t do things that would make you look bad if other people found out about them.
You can’t choose your siblings or parents but you can cut contact with them if they refuse to be civil. You can build your own family which it appears you have done and done well. Congratulations to you. Please ignore your AH family for your own and your daughters good.
YTA
NTA, though maybe you should post this in r/maliciouscompliance as well, they did ask for it.
Edit: spelling
Did anyone give then shit?
NTA for publishing their nastiness. But you really need to cut them off.
Nta as someone who grew up in foster care, you adopting a child who needed someone on their side, to care and give them a home touches my heart, not all foster kids are lucky enough to find their forever family, and your aunt is definitely TA for treating that precious child like she isn’t an important part of your family
Stop exposing that poor child to these nut jobs. If you choose to go around people that clearly don’t like or respect you. That’s between you and your therapist, but leave your poor baby out of the bullshit. She shouldn’t have to suffer because of your self esteem issues. Your whole family is toxic af because why were your siblings and parents ok with you being seated away from them in the wedding’s outer siberia ? where were your parents when you were being bullied ? and why on earth would you keep going around them or interacting with them when they have shown you that they despise you ? Block them and move on with your life
NTA but I would pay to see the comments