I have a best friend who i’ve known for 70% of my life.
This friend of mine i’m sure many people wish they had. Constantly reminding me how thankful he is i’m in his life, how he couldn’t live without me, genuine good person, we are friends ofc.
The issue is although I do care for him and whatnot I don’t really give a shit all that much for him.
Would I do a ton of stuff for him if he needed it? Loan him money? Pick him up off the side of the road wasted? Of course.
I feel I do have a true best friend but that’s someone else who essentially is me and I’m him. Makes sense why we’d be best friends right?
I just feel bad because he thinks we’re jump off a bridge together best friends grew up together etc etc when really I could live without him.
I could live without all my friends to be fair, but I don’t know, appreciate any input. I’m thinking maybe I just have something twisted in my psyche. He’s honestly impulsive and makes stupid decisions which may be why I don’t feel i’m from the same cloth as him.
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Objectively, he’s way more invested in this “best friendship” due to shared history and his emotional neediness, while your lack of deep care stems from his flawed character and your general detachment from others. Cynically, you’re his reliable safety net, a role you tolerate out of obligation, not genuine affection, while your real connection is with someone who just mirrors your own ego.
Don’t bother trying to bridge this gap; his clinginess will only drain you, and your true lack of feeling won’t magically transform – just manage his expectations minimally to avoid unnecessary drama until the inevitable fading of this one-sided bond.
Cut yourself off from them ASAP. Let them find a friend who actually gives a shit.
I too have a friend like this. I’m there for him whenever I can be, but he thinks I’m his absolute best friend in the world. Asked me to be his best man, I did of course. But the whole time wondered why.