I (23F) have a best friend (23M). Our moms were high school best friends and got pregnant at the same time, so we’ve been close literally since birth. Our bond is really deep, and he’s also literally saved my life once. We’ve never been romantic with each other, I would describe our relationship as a really close sibling like bond.
Growing up, we spent a lot of time together. When we were teenagers, his dad passed down his old motorcycle to him. It was a huge moment for him because his dad used to ride that bike when he was younger, and it became kind of a legacy thing. Since then, he’s gotten super into biking. There’s this long, empty stretch of road where he likes to ride super fast and dangerously (not proud of that part, but it’s his thrill). A few years ago, he invited me to sit behind him once, and while it was absolutely terrifying, it was also one of the best, most exhilarating experiences of my life. Since then, it’s kind of become our little tradition, we do it maybe once a month.
He’s been dating a girl for the past year, and I honestly really like her. She’s sweet, and I’ve always tried to be welcoming and respectful of their relationship. But last night she called me out of nowhere and told me that this whole biking thing made her really insecure. I asked her why couldn’t just try it herself and sit behind him, but she said she never could, it’s too scary for her.
I didn’t want to cause any issues, so I called my best friend and asked him if we should stop. He immediately said something like, “No way. This is our thing. It’s tradition.” He said he’d handle things and talk to his girlfriend.
I don’t want to be the reason she’s uncomfortable in the relationship. But this is something my best friend and I genuinely enjoy, and I don’t want to stop it. Should I step back anyway? Or should I let him figure it out with her?