I (F18) in a new relationship (its been 1 month ish) with this guy (M18) and he still follows both of his exes (he ends stuff on good terms) on socials and he dated one for almost a year and after her another one for a week. He told me he muted his ex on insta but when i peeked over at his phone on his homepage her story was the first already viewed story displayed on it. Its been 3-4 months they broke up but he said hes gotten over her. I feel like this is such a small issue but even something small as this really triggers me as i have bad trust issues from my previous relationship. I do want to mention it to him but i also feel it is very petty and small. I attached a photo in reference of what it looks like, except every story was already viewed and hers was the first one there like in the photo. Is this worth bringing up?
Tdlr; bf said he muted his ex on instagram but her story is the first one displayed on his homepage.
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At the very least he’s keeping dibs on them, seeing who they’re dating, etc. Definitely need to call him out.
A man who is still friends with his ex(es) is not an emotionally mature man. The lying about it makes it worse. If you want to stay with him in the long run, I’d definitely bring it up. But be warned that this behavior will likely continue.
It isn’t so much about the story, but about the little lie: if he told you he silenced her, why not be honest about something so simple?
It’s worth talking about it, not out of jealousy, but to see if you can build trust from the beginning