So while we were drunk I think I woke up to him asking about my phone or something but I led to him finding a video and picture of me and my ex I believe, he said he can’t the picture of me and video of me out of his head. Me and him just turned 5 months together
I’m at loss at what to do here, I don’t know what to feel. He said he got a message from a burner account saying that his “gf” me has videos of “us” doing stuff. I’m assuming it was my ex but I just don’t know what to do. I didn’t have those videos there on purpose, and honestly I forgot it was there. You have to scroll so far into my gallery to find them like beginning of my gallery. Idk how to fix it? Is it fixable
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honestly girl as someone’s who’s actually been on his side of this, that shit rlly doesn’t leave ur head :/
i think it’s important to delete shit like that when u get serious with someone new.. yes you should’ve looked thru ur camera roll and deleted it , but i get forgetting. i think ur best bet is to remove it, and any other things regarding ur ex. and try to reassure ur boyfriend. keep reminding him of how u feel, and that u didn’t recall it being there. as for ur ex texting ur bf. u need to handle that ASAP. ur ex is weird as fuck for that and he’s wrong as FUCK for trynna ruin ur relationship. i’m sorry girl
So, he got the message and then, uh, decided to snoop through your phone while you slept? That is so much weirder and worse than you having old videos!
He could have just not done that. It would have been very easy and normal to not do that. This guy was trying to hurt his own feelings.
The burden to fix this is on him and by fix I mean get over it. It’s normal to have sextapes. Btw your ex is a L A M E choose better in the future and you won’t need to worry about this sorta thing