My boyfriend said the only thing I did in 1 year of dating was give him my p*ss
Hello, I am a 20 year old woman, I am French, so my English is not going to be very good, sorry.
I’m a little ashamed of myself, I’m with this boy and he took me to the restaurant or paid for Airbnbs so we could meet, I told him if I could contribute he said no, we also had a good bond, he gave me flowers, he was romantic, he met my mother.
Yesterday for several weeks we didn’t see each other and I missed him I wanted to see him so I complained and he told me that I have nothing to complain because I already don’t make him much to eat (we don’t live together) and that girls who love their men show attention by spanking their food, that I’m no use as a girlfriend apart from giving my ass, everything I’ve done in the last 1 year I haven’t reported anything just giving my ass, because they send me TikToks of food and I haven’t made any for him, on Saturday I made food for him, there are days when I take him food but even if it’s rare, what he said hurt me enormously. I told him that I need to think about whether I continue the relationship or not. Thank you for reading, I cried so much because I love it. He told me he was sorry when I asked him if his sister would have told him that how he would have reacted. Except the damage is already done
In 2 days it’s my birthday too. And also I could have done my studies elsewhere in France but I decided to stay in the party for him and now I’m starting to regret…
I feel dirty for trusting him.
How would you have reacted?
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Get out of the relationship. He doesn’t respect you and his comments are degrading. It will only get worse from here.
My first comment would be that if somebody is disrespectful to you like this, end the relationship.
It might be just a detail that is lost in translation, but is the issue otherwise that he feels like he has been giving you flowers, paying for places to stay, making gestures like that – but that you have not reciprocated?
Leave. Don’t look back. He isn’t worth anything you could give.
He doesn’t respect you, I would break up.
Remember, he told you that he doesn’t see you as anything past some ass for him. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn’t see you as an equal, let alone as little as just some ass?!
This isn’t something to move past, this is something to move ON FROM.
He was very disrespectful. If he wanted someone to cook for him, why didn’t he take you to a restaurant instead of asking you to cook for him…
If my boyfriend did that to me, I would tell him that I thought the tik toks were a warning he would take me to a restaurant soon. And obviously, leave him after.