My bf cheated on me and he is not even guilty

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My bf is moving out of the country for his higher studies and we meet before he goes and next day he went to party at his friend house. He hooked up with some girl and after coming back he told me about the cheating. I can’t believe how you can makeout with two different women in 24 hrs . When we started dating out while relationship was based on how our values matched and how we see relationship with same perspective. This is completely opposite of him. This came as a shock to me. When I asked for reason he said he was drunk. He didn’t even asked me of forgiveness, not even single tear shread. I wonder if I was living a lie all this time
I still can’t get over the fact he was so nice with me when we meet everything perfect and he cheated on me next day. I was stalked that girl so many times wanting to know if she more pretty than me

Comments

  1. LushLavendula Avatar

    Damn girl, first off, I’m truly sorry you’re dealing with this. But straight talk, you gotta know, him being drunk isn’t an excuse, it’s a cop-out. Cheating ain’t about looks either, so don’t go comparing yourself to her. Remember, you’re worth more than a dude who don’t own up to his mistakes and treats ya like a second choice. Move on and live YOUR best life, ’cause he sure as hell ain’t worth the heartache. Stay strong, sis! 🙌💯

  2. Human_Way9027 Avatar

    He does not seem to have clear values. Sit with him and talk about what are your boundaries, goals and values. Ask if they allign with his. If he does not know well or it is cloudy, then he is not a grown adult and still did not realize what he things it’s right or wrong

  3. Main-Extreme6534 Avatar

    Being drunk isn’t an excuse. He is guilty and you should leave him. Once a cheater, always a cheater

  4. Fern-Serenitys Avatar

    Wow sis, that’s rough. Sounds like a dodged bullet to me, tbh. Drinking ain’t an excuse for being a total jerk. This ain’t on you or abt that other girl’s looks – it’s on a dude who’s gotta get his act together. You deserve better, don’t you forget that! Keep your chin up and stay strong! 💪🔥🔥

  5. Alarmed_Twist_4527 Avatar

    Yeah sorry to say but i think he just said that stuff about values cause he knew you wanted to hear it

  6. Actual-Deer1928 Avatar

    I wonder if this is his way of breaking up with you since he doesn’t want a long-distance relationship. 

  7. AstroBlush8715 Avatar

    He’s checked out already because he’s moving out of the country.

    He wants to break up with you, and now expects you to dump him because he cheated.

    Simple psychology.

  8. HeatQueens Avatar

    You weren’t in love with a person you were in love with the version of him he wanted you to see. Drunk or not, betrayal is a choice, and the fact that he feels nothing while you’re breaking says everything about who he truly is.

  9. RadiantDreamAura Avatar

    Cheating is the number one deal breaker for me in a relationship. Especially if he has no remorse or guilt over his actions. Time to break up with him and take space to yourself to heal, for your sake.

  10. HoneydewStreet9124 Avatar

    oh girl we deserve better

  11. DonTakeMeFi-Idiat Avatar

    your values don’t match. it’s pretty cut and dry. to the curb he goes.