Me (16f) and my boyfriend (18m) have been dating for 4 years and for the past few months I’ve been so extremely sick with I have no clue what. I’m not myself at all anymore. And my body just doesn’t work. My boyfriend though has been there through all of it. I stopped going to school when I got sick but my boyfriend is at my house from the time he gets home from school to the time he leaves. He used to go back to his house for dinner, but I’m not sure how much time I have left, so he’s here pretty much all the time.
Anyway, he just does way too much. He washes my hair for me, then brushes and braids it so it isn’t matted, he brushes my teeth, he sits next to me while I throw up everything I eat, he just does everything and never complains. I literally threw up all over him and the bed the other night and he didn’t even act annoyed. He just kissed me, said it was okay, then cleaned everything up.
I feel so embarrassed when he has to do all this, but I just physically can’t do it myself. He’s so sweet but my biggest fear in the whole world is that he hates me and he just isn’t breaking up with me because I’m dying.
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Think about it. If your boyfriend truly didn’t want to be there, he wouldn’t be. He’d make excuses, distance himself, or show frustration. Instead, he’s choosing to care for you in your hardest moments, which says a lot about how he feels. That said, it’s okay to check in with him. Not out of fear, but to make sure he’s okay too. Ask how he’s doing, thank him, and let him know you appreciate him. Relationships go both ways, even when one person is struggling. Instead of feeling guilty, focus on the love you share and the small ways you can still support each other
He’s so crazy for you it’s not funny , relax he wants to be there you’re just letting the depression thoughts win.
I think you’re just letting intrusive thoughts win. Just be sure to tell him how much you appreciate him. He seems like a good guy.
Hold up, have you been to the dr? I’m more concerned about your health than your bf being supportive. Why do you think you’re dying?
You’re dying but you don’t know what you’re sick from?
You can’t brush your teeth but you can type out paragraphs on reddit?
I’m not sure this is adding up.
Go to r/askdocs
Have you stopped to consider the possibility that you could be pregnant?
Maybe her parents have munchausen’s by proxy, and the doctors are looking for the wrong things 😬. Okay, it’s a big leap, but…
On topic though – OP, the number of men that abandon their partners when they get very sick is really high. Your bf absolutely loves you more than anything, otherwise he absolutely would have been out that door ages ago.
This is way too much responsibility for an 18 year old child to take on. Where are his parents? Why aren’t you in a hospital?
Yes, he doesn’t like u. Just dump him. The sign are one of people who doesn’t like u. Those who love u will.just let u do it urself. It’s respectful to do nothing and that’s true love
If he didn’t actually like you there’s no way he would go through all of this with you
I’m so sorry that you’re not well. When I was going through a lot my boyfriend moved me in to his apartment and took over everything for me. Sometimes I wonder if this makes him unhappy but when I ask him he wraps his arms around me and kisses me and tells me it’s ok..He says to relax and let him be my man . So I will tell u to just let him be your guy.
One day he might be sick and you know to go all out.
please dont flame me but in the nicest way possible this is what we joke about when we say girl math lol. that dude would sacrifice literally anything for you. some people like to feel needed and are good at nurturing. he knows your physical limits, allow him to express himself this way and reciprocate by showing gratitude. i’m sure that would mean a lot to him.
That man loves you and he is worried about you and wants to make sure you are taken care of. Don’t be afraid, just tell him how much he means to you and be there for him as much as you’re able to as well. I’m sorry that you have to go through this but I’m glad you don’t have to do it alone.
If your boyfriend didn’t like you, he wouldn’t be doing all of that for you, especially at such a young age. A lot of grown men can’t even be bothered to treat their significant other with that much kindness and care. Be grateful you have him in your life
I can tell you at his age that maturity level is amazing. He loves you
Where are ur parents?
What are ur symptoms?
So obviously fake. Why on earth would this girl not be in hospital with her parents? Also, pedo bf not tripping anyone else out? 14yo boy pulling that 12yo girl? Ew. OP claimed it took two weeks to write this but also replied to a comment in 9 minutes…jesus
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Now I am not a professional. But it seems to me, as an onlooker, that you have found yourself some treasure. From the information provided, I conclude that this man does not intend to leave you under any circumstances. Keep him and make sure he knows how much you appreciate him
If he didn’t love you, why would he do any of those things? You have bigger concerns. Enjoy the fact that you’re treasured.
Aw, sounds like you don’t feel like you deserve the love he’s giving you. That’s such a lie we tell ourselves, just because you’re sick doesn’t mean you don’t deserve the love and care you’re being shown! <3 Just try to give him as much love as you can in return, even if that’s such a sweet smile and a “thank you.”
Do you have a parent or guardian? I’m just wondering because if you are this critically ill someone should be advocating for you at a hospital and not your 18 year old boyfriend taking care of you. I’m just trying to imagine a world where I’d let my son die of an unknown illness and rely on his girlfriend to bathe him after school. How are you even holding your phone up?
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Tell him how much you appreciate it, how much it means to you, and how amazing you think he is.
This is often what people that do these things need.
It would be a shame for him to sacrifice so much of his time and effort without ever feeling like you appreciated it.
“Thank you, so much!”
There you have it. It costs you nothing, but holds so much value for others.
And that’s the beauty of it. It’s simplicity. That’s all there is to it. Everything’s fine. That’s all it takes. All is well. Don’t worry your sweet little head about it, anymore.
Sounds like a cool dude. I’d focus on getting better before thinking about much else. I hope you’ve seen a few doctors or specialists to find out what’s going on.
It never bothered me at all when my ex got really sick and I did everything I could to help her out and make her more comfortable. If anything I appreciated being able to take care of her.
Most guys appreciate being able to take care of their significant others/families when they’re in need.
Also, go see another doctor like tomorrow. They can give you zofran to help with nausea and ideally find out what is going on.
I wish you great health and keep that men forever.
Yeah, this lad does not hate you, and sounds like a keeper: green flags
Girl!!!
Go to the doctor and get checked for being drugged or poisoned!!!
This is insane!!!
Is this fr???
All you people saying oh he’s so sweet he’s so nice
Yeah NO!!!
How come I see serial killer?
Be fr now!
He’s just 18, he wouldn’t come if he didn’t love you.
Maybe he’s poisoning you?
If he wasn’t in love, he wouldn’t be doing that. You don’t do that stuff for someone you don’t love.
If you’re really dying, stop worrying about it and please enjoy what time you have left with him. Don’t let the depression win
Did op delete their profile cause this is such a stupid story
The accounts gone. Y’all people are bait taking fools
Please show him appreciation. My girlfriend was in this similar situation; she’d dislocated her knee and was bed bound for some time and I’d always be over trying my best to make things better.
Appreciation goes a long way. Idk your guys’ situation but 4 years deep? If he’s not ready to marry you then idk when he will be. 4 years in and here he is taking care of you, cleaning your throw-up. Yea, show him some extra love
Your BF feels good about taking care of you. He gets something out of it or else he would not do it.
He is obviously IS a caretaker.
Amazing that he has been with you since you were only 12 years old ! That is only 7th grade.
IF you do not have a diagnosis then you do not know that you are terminal. The mind is powerful. You create what you belief. Try thinking that you are getting better instead 😀
At age 16…..Do you live with your parents ? Are you seeking medical help to find out what is wrong ?
Please keep trying to find out answers to what is wrong & trying treatments to get better.
If tradition medicine has not been helpful then seek out Alternative Medicine.
I hope you are being home-schooled. Do not give up on your education.
yea… he hates you… women are crazy… can you hear yourself?
Have you had a HIDA scan to check for your gallbladder? Ask the gastrointerologist for one.
That’s assault brotha! M(18) and F(16) haha