My boyfriend and I have been dating for nearly three years. We’re both 19, but recently we’ve grown very distant, both mentally and physically. I work full-time, and he’s an unemployed university student, so we only see each other on weekends.
Lately, we’ve been arguing a lot, and I’ve been feeling neglected by him. Last night, after dinner, we talked about having dessert. I told him I just wanted ice cream, and he said he wanted apple pie. It was a normal conversation at first.
About an hour later, he came back with two apple pies. I thanked him but reminded him that I had said I wanted ice cream. He threw the bowl with the apple pie onto the bed and shouted, ‘Then go get it yourself, you fat pig. You’re an ungrateful cunt.’
I was completely shocked by how he spoke to me. I told him clearly that I don’t like apple pie, but he just kept calling me a cunt no matter what I said. He never apologized.
I left the room and told him that if this is how he thinks of me, then we are done.
I just want to make sure I’m not being oversensitive here and that I’m making the right decision ? because he is no longer the same person I fell in love with three years ago.
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Well done, I’m proud of you
Now make sure you stick with it
Nobody gets to talk to you like that
If they try it, they don’t get a second chance
You mean your EX boyfriend, right?
please leave, nobody who loves you will speak to you like that… ever. please know your worth and find someone who sees your worth as well.
If my boyfriend said this to me I would be single.
NEVER EVER LET SOMEONE SAY THIS TO YOU
unforgivable
unforgettable
DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT STAY WITH HIM.
Calling you that is despicable and appalling and he deserves to be single forever.
And yeah, gotta say it again, if this was my boyfriend I would immediately drop contact entirely
Time to leave. Never let anyone mistrest you, it will erode your self esteem