My bf (m20) sees his friends every day. What do I (f20) do?

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So my bf (m20) and I (f20) have been together for almost a year and a half.

He’s with his friends everyday. While I can’t see him everyday (sounds like I’m searching for attention. Ik)

I just want to start off by saying that his friends have been disrespectful to me in the past. We used to hang out all the time with his friends and they never said hi to me. Even when I say hi. They never speak to me, even if I’ve seen them countless times. I feel like I’m sometimes invisible.

Anyway, so my bf is someone who depends on ppl when he’s bored. He doesn’t have any hobbies that he does alone. He plays video games about 5-6 days a week for maybe 3-4 hours with his friends. He plays hockey 5 times a week with them. He goes to church with them. He goes to the gym everyday with them. And yes he does all of this in one day. One thing I love about my man is that he’s super active and does a lot during the day but he doesn’t everything with his friends. When he works (11am – 8 pm shifts) he goes to hockey in the morning then breakfast with the boys. Then after work he goes to the gym with them. So yes I barely see him. Since we’re still young and I’m in school. My parents don’t want others coming in the house during the week since my mom works from home and she likes to have a quiet house while she works. And my bf lives on opposite ends from my school so I can’t really go over to be with him. His gym is 5 mins away from my place tho because his friends go to it. Even tho we don’t hangout during the week. Ik it’s crazy. Because he works and I go to school we have busy schedules but I feel like he obviously prioritizes his friends over me.

And during the weekends he goes out with them maybe once or twice. And I would join occasionally if I’m in the mood or if I’m invited.

And so here is the juicy part, my bf got suspended from work a few days ago and ever since he’s been going to hockey then gym then lunch with his friends. And none of them have drivers licences so he drives them everywhere. And I do ask if he could pick me up from school so we could hangout but he’s busy at the gym with the guys or at lunch with them. And today he just got fired. So he won’t have a job for maybe a few days or even weeks. I worried since he hangs out with them so much with work that now when he doesn’t work he’s gonna be with them 24/7. And I don’t want to be competing against his friends for attention. Tell me what to do. Or tell me what to say to him. Should I ask to hangout with his friends more often. I’ve told him that he depends on them too much but he doesn’t really do anything about it.

I’m with him from Friday after noon to Sunday afternoon normally on weekends. So yes I do see him. But sometimes he doesn’t go out with his friends and stuff. What do I do?

TLDR: my bf (m20) is with his friends for several hours a day, everyday. What do I (f20) do?

Comments

  1. Krimmothy Avatar

    Break up with him. He’s clearly not prepared to be in a relationship. 

  2. chadisntmad Avatar

    He’s 20 and your 20 it’s going to be like that