It sounds ridiculous I know. We’ve been together for about 8 months. For context, I work in a hospital and my boss and I have always had a pretty good relationship and We have similar senses of humor. The other day I was at work on my day off because I had an appointment that was in the hospital. I ran into my boss while I was waiting for my appointment and we had a quick conversation. In the conversation it came up that I needed to run to the pharmacy downstairs to get my prescription. He offered to grab it for me since he had to go down there to pick up his Starbucks order anyways. I gave him my debit card and he went to get it. When he came back he told me that my card had declined so he just paid for it (it was like $7). I then realized I gave him then wrong card, and we joked about it. He then handed me a cookie from Starbucks and said “well before I knew that I bought you this pity cookie because I felt bad about you being broke. And bad news is always better delivered with a cookie”. We both had a good laugh about it and I went home after my appointment. When my boyfriend called me and asked me how it went I told him about the appointment and the pity cookie because I thought it was funny. He however did not find it as humorous. He made a comment to the degree of “hmm I’m glad it went well but I’m not exactly happy he brought you a cookie”. It threw me off completely. When I asked why he said it’s because he doesn’t like the idea of other men buying me food. I just couldn’t understand why. It was an innocent joke, nothing more. Am I under reacting or is he overreacting? Am I missing something?
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He needs to grow the fuck up
Are you sure he is 32 – good god – this is ridiculous. Warning sign that he is insecure and immature.
>He doesnt like the idea of men buying you food?
I would be more upset that i didnt get a cookie.
Do you think your supervisor is flirting with you? Because it sort of sounds like it.
Okay well, good news its only been 8 months. He needs to grow up and if this doesnt improve youre better off single
Good grief I had to go back and check his age again because that’s some insecure teenager BS. It’s a cookie, not a 10 course meal. Is he weird about other things too? Do you have guy friends outside of work and will that be a problem in your relationship? Not saying break up, but maybe reexamin things and keep an eye out for other red flags.
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He have to be more secure than this if he is going to be in a relationship. Talk to him and tell him how you feel. To be this insecure is insulting to you and to your relationship, he needs to do better.
He’s way too old to be acting like this. Good grief.