My boyfriend is usually a very sweet and loving guy and he’s really good to me. I’m still in shock about what happened. A few nights ago we were having sex and suddenly he put his hands around my neck and squeezed until I couldn’t breathe. I tried to push him off of me but he’s much bigger and really heavy. I wrapped my legs around him and flipped off the bed onto the ground and I was on top of him. He started laughing. I went to the bathroom, locked myself inside and started crying uncontrollably. I stayed there until he went to work in the morning. He didn’t come to check on me at all and I’m sure he heard me. We never talked about it after and now I feel distant from him. He’s never done anything like that before and I don’t really know how to talk to him about this.
My bf strangled me during sex
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You should break up with your abusive boyfriend before you are dead.
Make him your ex-boyfriend.
The absolute best case scenario is his brain is rotted from too much porn and he thinks that’s a normal thing to do during sex with no prior planning or discussion.
Worst case scenario is you wind up on the obituary page.
He tried to kill you! Run as fast as you can! No need to find out why he did this!
The concern is the not talking about it after part. Not addressing it sounds concerning but I’d also ask if you’ve made mention wanting to be “rougher” or anything along those lines. It’s not difficult to tell if you’re with a bad person. From what you have said assuming there is nothing underlying, then the advice would be to leave. Everyone can act out how chocking even to the point of not being able to breathe is such an insane thing when there’s plenty of women that want to beat up just to get off.
Leave him. Get her your things and leave. This is a very dangerous situation.
I think he is into choking (it’s a kind of fetish) during sex.
I guess he should have communicated it to you before engaging it with you.
I am sure he didn’t mean to hurt you As such.
You are over thinking about it.
Talk to him, and let all things be cleared out.
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Why do women never trust their gut and get with these losers?
I would recommend leaving the relationship. That is an insane thing to do to another human being.
Leave him….. stay alive…. Thats all….
Saw this on reddit a while ago, but this is a dangerous situation
https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/strangulation-is-the-highest-predictor-of-murder
You will end up dead. He tried to kill you and had no remorse for what he did. You have to leave him immediately.
Tell him to get out of your house before you go home, change the locks and I’d report it to the police.
If someone is happy to do this they are capable of far worse.
This is sexual assault. A kink is something both people consent to. He would be kicked out of my life so fast his head would spin, and I am all for breath play, but CONSENTUAL BREATH PLAY.
Leave him. Get to safety. If there are any bruising or marks on your neck, report it to police. Get a restraining order if you can. You might not be so lucky next time. Bring drunk is not an excuse.
We are all saying the same thing. Leave his ass or kick him out. Don’t dare think of giving him a second chance. He has shown his true colors.
It’s a sign. Don’t ignore it. The closer you 2 become, the more welcome he will feel to do more.
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Leave this person now. They will not respect your boundaries in the future. They have no remorse at your pain, you need to run. Not only are they an awful boyfriend they may even be dangerous.
Insane to do this, even crazier to react how he did after. What a psycho
And, it’s time for you to leave him. Abusers who choke like that are 7x more likely to kill you. It starts with tests like this to see how much he can get away with.
Leave him. Consider reporting it. Do not under any circumstance forgive him and give him another chance. Your life is worth more than that.
Get your shit if you need anything, and get the absolute fuck away from him. If you need help, ask for it or find a family member or a very trusted friend.
Without trust and safety, it’s not a great relationship. I would personally end it. Being drunk is no excuse.
He. Is. Not. A. Sweet. And. Loving. Guy.
Get out.
Ditch him, please. His refusal to own up to what he did is telling. What if he won’t let go next time and he has you incapacitated? Please also confide in someone close to you what he did.
Damn. I’m sorry this has happened. The fckr probably watched something on cornhub and thought he’d try it. Leave him. If you can, do it before he returns.
It’s not only the strangling, but also all his actions (or lack thereof) that followed. Total disregard of your physical and mental wellbeing. He doesn’t love you OP, I’m so sorry.
You have to discuss this if he was drunk because of he doesn’t realize it, that makes it even more dangerous. I would still leave though. Getting so drunk to the point of not being able to remember us dangerous and irresponsible, and if he does remember and had some control, that is also very dangerous. So leave.
Leave him, that’s dangerous. Sounds like he’s gone crazy