DISCLAIMER: This story is a real story, this is my real life and I’d appreciate if you’d be open minded while reading. I don’t care if you don’t prefer Roblox, don’t come in here saying that. I’m asking for advice and I 100% appreciate all of you who are giving me real.. whole-hearted advice. I only play Roblox for like 30 minutes a day, trust me it isn’t “taking over my life” lol.
Hello everyone! I’m 17 and my boyfriend is 19. I’ve been playing Roblox for the entire span of our relationship and I primarily only play grow a garden. My boyfriend wants me to quit playing Roblox because he says it’s “childish”, but the people I play with are all 17+. I’ve never done anything bad on Roblox, I literally just play it to pass time & to play when I get bored. I don’t really know what to do. He plays games on his PC & he literally plays Roblox with his friends sometimes as well. I feel like I’m at a loss and I need advice? Is he being controlling or am I just being some type of way?? He gets mad when I talk about grow a garden, he gets mad when I play it. However, I don’t play Roblox AT ALL when I’m with or around him. I play it when I’m bored and alone.. just like he does with his games. Do I quit playing?? I don’t really know what to do and it’s so unfortunate because I don’t want to lose him over a game, but I also don’t want to quit playing just because a boy wants me to. Someone please help me ☹️ What should I do?
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If he can play his games but gets mad at you for yours. That’s not about the game, that’s about control.
Having fun, harmless hobbies is a green flag, not a red one. Keep doing what makes you smile.
Grow a Garden sounds wholesome and relaxing. Honestly, we all need more of that in our lives.
I can concur with the other folks
Keep playing your games. Trust me if it really is that big of an issue with him, most other guys wouldn’t really care.
I agree with the person who said it seems like it’s about control. Don’t let him control you! Do what makes you happy!
If hes willing to sacrifice y’all’s relationship over ROBLOX(which mind you, I promise half the games he plays on the PC were games he played as a child so you could argue THATS childish) then he is NOT worth keeping honey. Get a man that’ll play Roblox alongside you lol……. Or buy you robux
He sounds like he sucks
girl play ur game like what do u think… lose this guy wtf is his problem
Who is he to dictate you about your gaming preferences?
“Then let me be a child! This brings out the childlike happiness that brings me joy. And you want to rip joy out of me? What kind of bf would do such a thing?”
Easy
Roblox wants you to quit your boyfriend.
If your boyfriend doesn’t want you to be childish then why is he treating you like his child?
I am 22 and play dress to impress. You are fine.
Yeah, I would continue playing. I even still play Roblox every once in awhile at 18, lol. If you ever want to play my name on there is @kirito_asuna2107.
I’m 54 years old and I play Roblox….
If using your dinosaurs and bunny to grow your garden makes you happy it doesn’t matter what your 19 yo boyfriend wants.
Playing games on roblox is playing games on a pc.
Do not do this….he’s asking too much……
This is one of those relationship defining moments. You need to set your own boundary here. How you do that is entirely up to you. Just know that if you quit playing, it’s going to be a slippery slope. It won’t be the last unreasonable request and you’ll have set the precedent that you will comply.
Older guy here (I have kids your age). However, I have years of experience. It starts with a video game, and then it turns into what you can wear, then where you can go, then who you can be friends with, then what you can and can’t do, and then the “consequences” for you disobeying follows…….. you need to ditch this loser like yesterday
I think you should quit that bf. A man that truly loves you wouldn’t have you give up something you truly enjoy doing.
Girl, don’t give your hobbies for some dude.
He’s being stupid.
I’ve been playing the sims since 2000. My partner never cares when I play. I’m 35.
Play your games. Loose the guy and don’t stand for any guy that calls your interests and hobbies “childish” and demands you stop them.
Tell him it is time for him to quit dating minors because it is childish and he should date girls his own age.
I really feel about the garden you wanted to grow in Roblox. Childish is the most stupid reason to stop doing something, as there is no “Appropriate adult hobbies” law or smth. I can understand the complaint if the game interferes with relationships, work or smth similar, but not “I don’t like your harmless hobby you are doing alone”. Maybe he is immature and follows trends so if “people say” Roblox bad, then it is a shame if someone found out his SO is playing roblox (always want to meet these magical people who know everything about anybody tho).
Besides this, pls take other people’s advice and check if you are not in a controlling relationship. Also would be interested to know why playing you Roblox is bad, but playing him other games is good (in mature and calm conversation)
You refuse his request and keep living your life as you want to.
As a 33 year old that plays the crap out of minecraft and stardew valley, your bf is hypocritical jerk. You are young. Go find your player 2. Not some dude that’s going to treat you poorly because you like a type of game he doesn’t enjoy.
Bruh what a hypocrite. Play what you want!! Don’t you dare stop playing because of him!🫠🫠 Roblox is fun! Lmk if you ever wanna play together 😝😝
If he wants you to quit games while he keeps playing himself, then he’s being a jerk and you should tell him so.
Seriously, OP, do tell him that he doesn’t get to play games, and tell you not to play! Because if he’s the man you hope he is, the one who’s worth keeping, then he’ll see that he’s contradicted himself and back down. But if he doubles down, or says “It’s different for guys”, or “Do what I say”, then that will be the moment that you realize he isn’t the man you thought he was, or the man you want him to be.
Sometimes, OP, we have to tell people things they don’t want to hear, to find out who they really are.
Be your own boss
Nah that’s just so random. In any situation, if someone tries to make you give up something that you enjoy for no good reason at all, they’re not someone you should be with
Agree with all the others comments
Next it will be something else you like doing , or he doesn’t like one of your friends or any hundreds of little things that will slowly creep in
My mum had a saying ’whats good for the goose is good for the gander’ in your case if you have to give up Roblox then he gives up his games.
Initially I was in agreeance with your bf, but then I remembered if anyone I was with asked me to stop playing games, I’d leave them.
Don’t feel bad for engaging in hobbies that make you happy, especially as young as you are.
Your bf is trying to control you.
Get out of this relationship NOW before it gets worse — because it will get worse, by a lot, and sooner than you think.
I’d be ashamed to play roblox at your age. Do you have any idea how many great video games exist and you are literally choosing to roblox. It’s like having access to filet mignon everyday but choosing to eat out of a dumpster instead.
Both of you need to get off of Roblox. And your BF sucks. Move on.
In my 30s and just tried Roblox for the first time to play with little cousins. It seems so massive and open for creativity that I can see any age enjoying this in the right servers.
And now I’m interested in Grow a Garden, so thanks for mentioning that lol.
Anyway he’s the one in the wrong by trying to control you and gatekeep your gaming. Super strange behavior and yes it’s a red flag.
He wants to control you, this is only the beginning.
If someone is demanding you stop doing something that brings you joy and that thing is something they also do and its completely harmless they are not worth your time.
A 19-year-old calling anything childish is just wild to me.
>What should I do?
Play what makes you happy. Shouldn’t even be an issue.
The petulant bf who makes childish demands about what you should and should not play is saying you are childish?
What are we missing? Oh, yeah, the sound of your foot kicking his butt when you boot him out of your life.
As soon as you said he plays Roblox, I knew this story wasnt legit
Yes, it is controlling for him to tell you what you should or shouldn’t be playing. It has absolutely nothing to do with him. You will have to set very clear boundaries with him and stick to them. Don’t allow anyone to change who you are just because they don’t like it.
i’m 26. my 24 year old partner buys me stuffed animals, fidgets, calico critters, etc. because i like them and she has never EVER told me it’s childish!! don’t ever let anyone make you feel bad for the things you like
Nope. Don’t do it.
You say you don’t want to lose him- but you should.
Girl. The best lesson you can learn right now is no man is worth making yourself smaller over. And no man is worth being controlled over.
Tell him you’re not doing it and let the chips fall where they may. If he ends it, consider it a favor, bc he’s a POS.
🚩🚩🚩 he’s controlling 🚩🚩🚩🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️
He’s jelly you enjoy something that is not him. Keep playing roblox lets him be mad about your pixel garden lmfao
You should check out a game called once human.
For anyone who is saying this story is a lie or made up, I really wish it was made up. This is the real life situation that I’m going through so please be mindful of that.
the issue here isn’t that your boyfriend wants you to quit roblox it’s that a 19 year old man wants anything to do with a high school student
Im 46 and I am building a town in Minecraft. You are never too old to do something you enjoy.
Seems like the thing you are not enjoying is the boyfriend
If it’s not time consuming then it’s ok to play. Did he specify why he doesn’t want you to play that game? That’s weird behavior.
On a side note, now you made me want to plant a garden but in real life. Seems fun and beautiful.
You should never be with people who want to change you. So no, you shouldn’t quit playing it. Honestly, it’s not even about the game. It’s about them trying to get you quit doing something that you enjoy just because they say so. It’s Roblox today. It’ll be something else down the road.
This is such a red flag on his part. Do what makes you happy. You don’t owe him anything. It’s not even an unhealthy hobby either such as clubbing or anything worse. There are men that will literally buy you robux and play with you. Trust me, me and my man play roblox to this day and he’s a grown man in the army. It’s such a green flag to have healthy hobbies.
He’s getting mad over nothing. Leave him.