Honestly can we even call him my bf at this point. So yesterday on oct 3 me and my bf shared an enjoyable night and day together. When I woke up that next morning he told me he had something he wanted to talk about with me. Which was him wanting to me to be his girlfriend.
Prior to this conversation maybe a week before I know we had a conversation about how I made him feel and he was very vulnerable in my opinion. which it made me smile that the feelings were mutual. BUT I mentioned to him that I wasn’t his girlfriend unless he asked me to be. I would hate to assume just because we are consistently together. (That’s when things get weird and I like clarity)
so maybe a week later is when he asked me to be his girlfriend and at the time I was like yeah because things have been going very well in my opinion. Well that same day his phone just kept going off from notifications. (Oh yeah he has 2 phones because one is for personal and the other is for business) the “business phone” was buzzing and I just so happen to glance at it for a second to realize a message received and it was from another woman saying “okay babe” and that instantly threw me off. Cause I know a few hours ago he just asked me to be his girlfriend but not only that there was notification for a dating app as well on this phone.
So as I was getting ready for us to have another day together. I was very much ready to confront him but I decided to enjoy my day on his dime lol. BUT now that I kept it in I’m really battling with the questions about how long he knew of her and is she someone who he is seeing as well!?….but I don’t want him to know I seen it on his other phone because that would mean I was technically looking thru his phone.
He’s been such an amazing person to me and I just don’t know how to feel. Like I get he just asked me to be his girlfriend but then again he’s still actively talking to her after asking me to be his girlfriend. Like how long would it take for him to cut all of that stuff off ??? or do you think he’s playing games with me???
TL;DR My gut says bull crap he should’ve arranged his affairs before asking me but the timing is so tight and I’m not talking to anybody. I cut the other ppl off before I even met him so idk what to think at this point. But I’m not gonna sit around and be played either. How should I approach this situation?
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Is this the same guy from 2 months ago that you keep breaking up and getting back together with?
You seem entirely too immature to be in a relationship.
I think there’s definitely benefit of the doubt based on timing. If it had been a day or two after, maybe different story. I do agree that it’s maybe a little sloppy, but not maybe malicious.