My bf says his parents like me but just can’t comprehend the idea that I’m secular. I don’t feel comfortable visiting his house because of that. I feel out of place and it really upsets me. I want to have a good relationship with his parents. How do I overcome this?
My bf’s patents don’t accept me because I’m not religious. How do I deal with this?
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You deserve to feel welcome so ask your boyfriend to speak up to his parents and keep hangouts neutral by meeting outside their home. That way you can see them without being stuck in that awkward tension.
What religion are they?
If Christian, tell them to read Corinthians which points out that a parter may not believe. Also point out that Jesus said to love everyone.
If they are living our Jesus’ love, then they will love you regardless of religion.
The first step is to talk openly with your boyfriend about how you’re feeling, so he understands the emotional weight this carries for you. He can be an important bridge in helping his parents see you for who you are beyond your beliefs.
When you do visit, try to focus on building common ground…shared interests, kindness, and respect go a long way in building trust. Over time, as they see your character and how you treat their son, their discomfort may soften. You don’t need to change who you are to be accepted, but patience, openness, and boundaries will help you navigate this respectfully. If the relationship deepens, there may also be opportunities for gentle, honest conversations that help them better understand your perspective. You’re not alone in this, and it’s okay to protect your emotional well being while still hoping for connection.
A real connection is allowing both parties to have a chance to know eachother without judging of someones religion/beliefs. Religion should never be a block between two people. Its really closed mindedness.
Honestly; you probably can’t. If they take their religion seriously and see nonreligious people as lacking then they’ll probably never truly accept you.
This is their problem not yours
You have to accept that there are things about you some people will never be happy about. It’s just life. Being your best parents does make this more complicated, especially depending on your age and living situations.
Your options are few but simple, and 2 involve action from your bf.
1: You speak to your boyfriend and he tells them to knock it off.
2: you and your bf cut them out of your lives.
3: find a new boyfriend.
They can’t comprehend or they don’t accept ?
Two very different things.
Either way – your partner need to speak to them as this is really rude of them and will affect him so he should train his parents to learn how to behave.
He must be smart if he has patents tho
Feel smug in the fact there is no god and they are deluded.