I (f19) and my boy best friend “Jake” (m19) have been friends for over 7 years, naturally we are super close and I see him as a brother. Him and his girlfriend f19 have been dating for around 3 years and I love her, she’s an amazing girl and we get along great. I do think Jake has had a crush on me before he met his gf, but it’s never caused any issues or tension and in the past.
Jake left to go travelling a few months ago and will be back in around a month, we were catching up on FaceTime last night when I got a weird feeling and hung up. He was masturbating on the phone to me. I could fully see his face as he did it, he was moaning, asking me to “wait” and “hold on” as i could see his arm was moving off screen. I hung up as soon as I realised and felt so sick that my FRIEND would do that. Part of me still doesn’t really believe it, and wants to think I’m wrong but I’m not stupid. I’ve had guys do this to me before and they’d normally get blocked immediately but this is my best friend so idk what to do. Thinking back now I’m not sure this is the first time, I’d kinda blocked it out my memory but our on call before this latest one I heard some weird noises from his end, his camera was off so I can’t be sure but I hung up anyways.
He tried calling me back a few times but i ignored it and spoke to a friend about what to do. I tried to confront him but I was left on delivered, guilty conscience cause he was online. I also messaged his girlfriend, because she deserves to know. This whole situation has left me with a pit in my stomach, I feel so sorry for his girlfriend and myself and I’m mad and confused cause wtaf, it’s always the ones you least expect ig.
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Backup of the post’s body: I (f19) and my boy best friend “Jake” (m19) have been friends for over 7 years, naturally we are super close and I see him as a brother. Him and his girlfriend f19 have been dating for around 3 years and I love her, she’s an amazing girl and we get along great. I do think Jake has had a crush on me before he met his gf, but it’s never caused any issues or tension and in the past.
Jake left to go travelling a few months ago and will be back in around a month, we were catching up on FaceTime last night when I got a weird feeling and hung up. He was masturbating on the phone to me. I could fully see his face as he did it, he was moaning, asking me to “wait” and “hold on” as i could see his arm was moving off screen. I hung up as soon as I realised and felt so sick that my FRIEND would do that. Part of me still doesn’t really believe it, and wants to think I’m wrong but I’m not stupid. I’ve had guys do this to me before and they’d normally get blocked immediately but this is my best friend so idk what to do. Thinking back now I’m not sure this is the first time, I’d kinda blocked it out my memory but our on call before this latest one I heard some weird noises from his end, his camera was off so I can’t be sure but I hung up anyways.
He tried calling me back a few times but i ignored it and spoke to a friend about what to do. I tried to confront him but I was left on delivered, guilty conscience cause he was online. I also messaged his girlfriend, because she deserves to know. This whole situation has left me with a pit in my stomach, I feel so sorry for his girlfriend and myself and I’m mad and confused cause wtaf, it’s always the ones you least expect ig.
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That is so gross and would make me wonder if he had some type of addiction as he is unable to appropriately determine the right and wrong way to do this.
You don’t have to talk to him ever again, but if you do, please encourage him to seek help.
Bit grim icl. Hackney lads are moving crazy smh.
You did the right thing. Block him? This is a consent issue. This guy is making us all look like raging horny bastards. Most people aren’t this desperate and weird. If he liked you he should’ve said so years ago, instead of being a damn weirdo.
Take care. Situation sucks. Lmk if you need to talk to someone, my girlfriend is 19 and just moved to London so she needs friends lmao
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Have you thought about telling the gf?
This is disgusting and unacceptable. He has violated your friendship, his own relationship, and done so in a very grotesque manner. You can no longer trust this man. I wonder how ashamed he would be if the world found out this is what he’s been doing to his friend and behind his girlfriend’s back and also without any consent whatsoever. I can promise you, he would be harshly judged because this is borderline just. I don’t even have an appropriate word for what this is. I would feel so sickened and violated and angry. I’m so sorry this happened to you and you did the right thing and personally I would never speak to that creep again.
Guys don’t have girls as best friends that do not involve feelings. His approach sucked. I’d block him and move on. This is a life lesson learned. You’ll have plenty of loyal friends in the future.
You block him like you would anyone else.
Mourn the friendship you thought you had and block him. I’m sorry this happened to you.
He doesn’t respect his gf, you, or your boundaries. Dude needs help. As someone who went through something like this: cut your losses now.
Good on you for telling his girlfriend she deserves better. That’s some gross ass behavior on his part.
It’s a respect issue, and you should not continue to be friends with somebody who A. Doesn’t care about your consent. B. we’ll probably continue to do this, and just get sneaker.
It shows that in his mind, his pleasure is more important to him than respecting his friends and his girlfriend. You might not be the only person he’s doing this to.
In 5 years’ time, he’s just going to be a cringy memory.
So, I had something similar happen to me when I was around your age. A friend of mine, her boyfriend, tried to get all hands and kiss me and then later lied and said that they had broken up…I shut it down immediately and told him to go.
My friend was showing up to senior year with hickeys from this guy! I was shocked, mad, and also scared to tell her what happened because there’s always this little voice that’s implying it could be your fault when it never was. It’s a super shitty situation to be in, and I feel you. He’s a toxic person right now and setting some very firm and healthy boundaries after that incident is a must! Block him, there’s no excuse for that behavior. Also, get some counseling to help you process what happened because that was sexual assault, and it’s not ok.
You block him like you would anyone who would violate you like me this.
You were put in a sexual situation without your consent. He has done it before and will do it again.
What if you are wrong????
BLOCK HIM!!!!
KEEP THE GIRLFRIEND AS A FRIEND!!!
You did absolutely nothing wrong. This dude is a fucking creep and predator.
He took advantage of your kindness and friendship.
The longer you allow him access to you, the worse his behavior can get.
BLOCK HIM
He isn’t your friend, girl.
This is severe sexual harassment at the least, if it’s not sexual assault… that is a really horrible disgusting thing he did to you and im so sorry 😞 ❤️
Everything you did was right. I hope you’re okay!! Counseling may help if thats an option. A lot of schools have it free for students.
Guys complain about being friendzoned, but I don’t think it can hurt as much as thinking someone who was really your friend for YEARS was pretending because they wanted to fuck you.
Hugs bbg, you will be okay ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Like most have said you block him like you would anyone else.
Sad when friendship end but not all last tests of time and while you saw him as a brother he has shown that feeling was not reciprocated.
And he is fact not your friend and instead a massive creep,
Trust broken and it is a shitty feeling, but always cut out anyone like that as they don’t deserve your friendship or you in their life.
what a weirdo girl I am so sorry!!! that is so violating and disgusting. good on you for telling his gf & I would definitely block him and never speak to him again.
That man wanted to date you the entire time and was never really your friend. Mourn the loss, but you were being deceived the whole time. Im so sorry he did such a disgusting thing to you.
Breooooo this happened more than once, not with just this guy but others. Wtffff
I am so sorry this happened to you, friend break-ups are the worst, but because of your age, I know you’ll find true friends quite compatible with you. It’s not odd for a guy friend to find you attractive, but if they don’t respect boundaries, better part with them as some can get dangerous.
Does he not know about pornhub 😂😂
You’re just gonna have to let him go. That’s truly disgusting in general, but the fact that he has a gf makes it 10x worse.
I mean, he’s not your friend. That’s the first thing you have to accept. He’s definitely not your best friend. You thought he was, but he’s not. So you have to accept that, and then proceed as if he wasn’t your friend. What would you do if some guy who wasn’t your friend did that to you?
Well that’s exactly how you proceed here. Because although you’ve got this imagine of this guy being your friend, he wasn’t your friend. So if some rando did this, you’d probably block him and cut contact, right? This guy is no different. He wasn’t your friend, like you thought. So you remove him from your life. He’s just another average creep. The only thing you’ll be missing is this friendship that you thought you had, which wasn’t even real in the first place.
So remove this guy like any other creep, because that’s literally all he is to you. Then you mourn the loss of the friendship that you THOUGHT you had.
I’m sorry this happened to you. I’m sure you feel hurt and betrayed because you thought you had a best friend and instead you had a liar and a creep.
Don‘t mean to be funny but there is only one circumstance where a guy and a girl can only be friends and that is when the guy thinks that the girl is ugly. It‘s just a fact.
I am sorry this happened to you. He’s a creep and over-sexualized u even when he had a girlfriend. I dont think anyone can come back from that…
I’m so sorry this happened to you! U.u You did great though. Confronted him and told his girlfriend. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Now just don’t let him gaslight You! You know what happened and You know he was using you. That’s digusting and that’s what he is 🤢 You don’t need that kind of person in your life anyways.
Hope the Best for you girlie 💕
He raised that hairy speaker well. Obviously giving a good performance!
The ick I got when I read this. I am so sorry! Glad you told the GF! I would also tell his parents and report him if you can. That’s very scary behaviour and can escalate to something so much worse.
This is sexual harassment.
Friends don’t sexually harass friends.
He’s not your friend. Sorry.
Block and move on with your life.
That’s fucking gross, friends don’t do that. Block him and have a girls day with his now ex.
>but this is my best friend
No. He’s not your friend period, let alone the bestie. And going by your ages he was never your friend, as 7 years ago you were both newly pubescent. Also, you knew he had a crush so you knew how he felt. So, come on.
Tell his nasty ass off one good time. Maybe you can salvage something to where you can remain civil, but don’t ever fall for his ‘friendship’ again.
Maybe he has athletes foot and had a very itchy toe?
There is no coming back from this. The friendship you thought you had is no more, and will never be again. Not only did he betray his girlfriend, but he violated you. He is not a safe person to ever be friends with.
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