My (23F) called my (23M) boyfriend last night. He has been away since Wednesday for a boys trip. I will admit the trust isn’t there. He cheated in the very beginning, he lies to me constantly, and doesn’t respect me. Lately he has been putting in effort to try and focus on our relationship.
I figured on his boys trip he might be drinking or just doing his think so I haven’t bothered him much. I just want him to have a good time and not worry about texting/calling me. Well last night our daughter was wanting to talk to him. I called him and said hey then he told me to hang on and put me on hold. I was on hold for 8 minutes so I hanged up the phone.
I was upset and our daughter just kept saying dada. I decided to call him later that night and when he picked up the phone after I was talking to him he said “I just met you” and then said “I have to be nice to you, I just met you”. I was so confused. Maybe I woke him in his sleep but even if I did why would he be saying that?
I’m starting to think he might’ve found someone on his trip. I texted him early this morning and asked him why he said that and asked him to be truthful to me. He left me on read and I have not heard from him at all today.
Do you think he’s cheating? Or do you think he was asleep and let something slip? Maybe it was just a weird thing that happened? Idk I’m lost.
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I think we are all wondering why are you still together and why did you let this relationship continue
I’m praying this is rage bait
I think you have zero standards.
Yes
If this is real. Leave. Life doesn’t have to be this miserable. Why are you fighting for someone who doesn’t respect or even seem to like you?
I think cheaters cheat. That’s it. Whether he’s cheating right now or not, he has done so before and he will do so again, because he’s a cheater.
Babe, you deserve better. Don’t stay in a relationship with a man you can’t trust.
You should probably make plans to be single. Don’t date people you can’t trust. He’s cheated on you. You say he lies all the time. This episode is seriously sketchy. You can’t trust him.
I won’t date liars or cheaters. I have a nearly zero tolerance policy on that level of disrespect. You deserve better. And being alone is better than staying with a dishonest partner.
Besides, the longer you stay and put up with his BS, the more you teach your child that disrespect and dishonesty is what love is “supposed” to look like. Your child will end up most “comfortable” in relationships that look like yours. Is that what you want for your child? To accept that lies, deception and disrespect are how people behave when they love you?
So you have a young daughter, he’s on a multi-day trip with his buddies, and it sounds like he’s cheating, and he’s already cheating.
When you call so his daughter can talk to him, he puts you on hold for 8 min.
What the fuck? What the actual fuck?
Where is your self respect? This is what you are teaching your daughter about relationships.
Pack up your place and leave while he’s on his trip. Cut off contact. I’m sure he will get the message.
Why would you have a kid with someone who cheated on you?
Why would you be with him?
Why would you call him on a boys trip you say you’re okay with for a child to speak to him knowing he’s partying and drunk? This seems more like you used the kid to check up on him.
His response sounds like a drunk one.
Whole thing is trash.
girl lmao
Once a cheater…you know the rest. You are way too young to be dealing with kind of drama. Move on.
Dude please leave.
I need to leave this sub lmao. Most of the posts just make me mad😭
>Not overreacting. Couples do have differences and go through times where they disagree. Since bringing up he cheated it seems as if that may still weight heavy on you. He broke your trust, you forgave. He is disrespecting you (saying hurtful things when mad) and you are continuing to forgive.
>It sounds like he is way too comfortable and walking over you. Leave before a child is involved (if not already). You need someone you can communicate with and that respects you. It’s okay to forgive mistakes but if a disrespectful pattern continues then it will leave you feeling empty.
Boggles the mind how you’re able to comment the above ^ on someone else’s post about a cheating boyfriend 10 days ago, yet can’t see the same situation you’re in yourself.
>He cheated in the very beginning, he lies to me constantly, and doesn’t respect me.
You do see how your comment above can apply to your exact situation, right?
Otherwise, this HAS to be satire.
After looking at your profile, you need professional help. I’m really sorry and I’m not trying to be mean at all. From what I saw, this man has been cheating on you for a year (this is how far I’ve read into your posts and comments) and you still decide to be with him and post on Reddit about how miserable you choose to be. Respectfully, I feel bad for your kid if this is genuinely real.
Umm, what else do you want to go wrong before you walk away??…. We don’t stay with people like him just because we made kids. The kids will thank you
Coparent maybe but I would not be having sex with this guy or any more kids. Byeee
Don’t raise your daughter to think this is how a man should treat a woman. Please. Leave.
Leave this man, go to therapy. Learn to love yourself so you can find someone capable of loving you. Your child deserves better.
“He cheated in the beginning, he lies constantly, and doesn’t respect me” I’m sorry what? You’re a loser then for staying with him
It’s not your standards. As I’ve seen someone else say. Sometimes people speak and they don’t have experience to speak from. I think your gut is telling you what happened. And you’ll eventually learn to trust that. There could still be some pregnancy hormones floating around, I don’t know how old the baby is. But I know you’re hurting. It doesn’t matter if he cheated. What matters is you’re hurt. That is the only fact that matters.
He’s cheating. And wtf is he on a boys trip if you guys have a young daughter? Have you gotten to go on a girls trip? He’s cheated on you in the past and is a loser, dump him already. Do not stay together for your kid, she’ll end up with someone just like him.
He’s cheating
Don’t listen to the people saying “Where is your respect?”. You did absolutely nothing wrong. You’re trying to hold your family together.
“I will admit the trust isn’t there. He cheated in the very beginning, he lies to me constantly, and doesn’t respect me. “
So why are you wasting your time with him?? Why have a kid with a guy who couldn’t keep his dick in his pants ?? Do you want your daughter growing up and thinking it’s normal to be cheated on, lied to and treated like dirt by her bf? Because that’s what she will be learning if you stay with the AH!
Where’s your self respect and standards??
Girl you know why he said that. He was drunk and thought you were the other girl.
Either tell him he will be moving out or you and your daughter go to family
I think you need to go to counseling and start working in your self worth and standards. Also start saving up money because this isn’t gonna be a happy relationship.
Cheating or not, that is proof he doesn’t care about you or your daughter.
Best thing you can do for your daughter is to show her how to stand up for herself- he doesn’t respect you and you don’t trust him.
The baby is 2, so leaving him now might be less damaging to her in the future…but you know what you need to do, why are we here?
Girl what are you doing
>>> He cheated in the very beginning, he lies to me constantly, and doesn’t respect me
Of course he is cheating. What are you doing with him? Why even have kids with someone who has cheating from the very beginning?
Since you don’t seem to care about the child, look at the person you chose to be her father, you should leave the child with him and go find yourself.
Time for child support court. We shall see if he remembers you there. If he wants any custody remind him he just met you and your child can’t go with strangers. Maybe suggest drug testing as well. I would put him through hell. Once you have a baby your “boys trips” or even if it’s the mom “girls trips” should end. You got a kid to raise now. Shoulda thought about it. Hell I got a 2 month old kitten and won’t go on vacation let alone a human baby. That’s selfish bs sorry
“He cheated in the very beginning, he lies to me constantly, and doesn’t respect me.”
And you’re still with him because…..?!?!?!?!
Seriously, find your self-respect and break up already. Why are you even tolerating this loser after he has repeatedly shown you who he really is? Of COURSE he’s cheating. BREAK THE FUCK UP ALREADY.
He’s not letting the whole ” have a baby with the wrong gal,” thing keep him back.
in your attempt to avoid a broken family, you are probably going to end up with a broken kid. pack up and leave
>”Well last night OUR DAUGHTER was wanting to talk to him.”
>”when he picked up the phone after I was talking to him he said “I just met you” and then said “I have to be nice to you, I just met you”.”
Well, that sure sounds STRANGE AS FUCK. How did that phone call end?
If he was cheating and around his new affair partner, I’d think he’d be more vague and choose words that wouldn’t sounds incredibly strange to you and would sounds more ambiguous to the person he was with? Maybe he was panicked and dumbfounded, but why would he even pick up the call from you if he had NO CLUE how to handle it? Why not just pick up and say something like, “Hey, it’s not a great time to talk. I’ll call you later on. Got to go now.” or reply with a text to similar effect?
If he’s not replying today after a night to sleep, sleep off whatever drink or drugs he may have been influenced by, think up an explanation for his strange choice of words, find a moment away from whomever he may have been with when you called, and again, I have no idea what was said if anything after he said, “I just met you”, “I have to be nice to you, I just met you” by either of you and how the call ended, but that does leave you to just wildly speculate and worry. If you can’t get any more context or evidence of what his up to or his state of mind? I guess I’d just say try not to panic or assume the worst in the meantime, but that does leave you in a really uncomfortable place and I sympathize!
If he’s cheated before, of course that make it entirely possible he’s doing so again?
But perhaps it’s a good time with him away and not communicating to do some really hard and deep thinking about if you really want to keep trying to build a life and family with this guy? Others mention your previous posts, I haven’t read any of that, but if you have major depressive disorder, a daughter, he’s extensively cheated in the past, regardless of what’s going on now, sure seems like perhaps you’d be better off leaving this relationship and just concentrating on your own heath and your daughter’s care. Perhaps you are dependent on him financially, or you have an unhealthy co-depedence, or just unhealthy attachment to him and he’s not all that especially attached or dedicated to you or your daughter? But the overall vibe isn’t a healthy or sustainable one!!
Why did you have a kid with this guy 🤷🏻♀️
Going off your post history and this post, I don’t know why you’re even on this sub. Advice for what? Accept your fate and live with it. He’s a cheater you willingly had a kid with and you’re not married to. Don’t come here for advice or to complain if you’re just going to keep ignoring advice and continue to degrade yourself.
Why are you still with him smh. Leave him and co parent
You just met him.
He cheated on you.
Why are you together again?
STOP HAVING CHILDREN UNTIL YOU GROW UP!!