My bf ‘M24’ and me ‘F23’ have been together for a year and we also live together. He just told he will never make out with me because he doesn’t like doing it anymore. He said all and his exes have made out but he just randomly decided he’ll never do it again(we have never made out so I finally asked why). Should I leave because of it making out is really important to me and I really can’t imagine never making out again. He basically said if would like to do it again we should break up and I should go find someone that will do it. I tried to compromise and be like ones in a while we do it but he basically told me he never wants to make out again. And it’s because he just doesn’t see the point and finds it boring. I feel like he’s like this in a lot of ways where it is his way or the highway and he won’t do a lot of things he used to do for previous people. But with me he won’t do it and it really is messing with the concept of him even loving me. I do love him but it’s so hard sometimes when all I hear is no I’m not doing that. There’s the door. What should I do?
My boyfriend 24M said we will never make out 23F
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He sounds toxic if he’s already telling you to leave, if he doesn’t want to make out or anything sexual then that’s fine, but that doesn’t mean you need to stay. That should’ve been something he told you before you started dating. If you want the relationship to work long term all your needs should be understood and try to work out a compromise.
It sounds like your needs and his boundaries aren’t aligning, especially on something important like affection. You deserve to feel loved and valued, not rejected. If making out matters to you and he’s unwilling, it’s okay to reconsider if this relationship is right for you. Communication is key, but your feelings are valid.
? Obviously you can’t have a relationship if he never wants to touch you again.
And why would you want to be with someone who didn’t want to be with you?
It sounds like he has told you he doesn’t want you, so by default he isn’t your ‘bf’.
Walk away now
Call his bluff and leave while you’re still young. It will only get worse as he ages. Telling you the hard truth
Run, don’t walk away. Relationships are two way roads. Don’t ever put yourself in this kind of position. Believe in your own value and find happiness. It’s out there.
I don’t really know what to say about a man who doesn’t want to make out with his girlfriend. What I will say is this, a relationship requires give and take. If you keep giving without getting any take, there’s nothing but grief in the future of this relationship. It’s probably better for you to cut your losses and find a boyfriend who doesn’t think making out with you is boring.
Serious question, is he gay? Any long term relationship I’ve had making out is usually followed by sex or a blowjob. Also I typically make out during sex too. Seems like a sign to cut bait.
You’re 23 and talking about making out. People used to have a couple of kids by now. What are you even doing. Find an adult to be with.
He’s being honest with you. It sounds like he doesn’t like you but wants you to break up with him because he likes having easy sex.
Say OK, and plan your moving.
Let’s see how he reacts.
You guys aren’t sexually compatible. I’d never be with someone who didn’t reciprocate. Honestly I’d break up with him.
What?!!
Damnnnnnn Damnnnnnn
Well that sucks. My opinion… I absolutely wouldn’t settle because clearly you love him more than he loves you. He is not healed AT ALL. Its not fair to you. No your worth and value because someone will love you the way you want to be loved. Its not genuine coming from his side because if it’s that easy to walk away then the question is, was he even in it to stay? Girl, you have time to find what’s right and what feels good. The good thing is he gave you an option and I’d recommend leaving while you can. Im a true believer in “easier said than done” so I hope you go with what the energy gives and not the heart. Good luck!
I cannot even imagine. He comes off like a cold jerk. I feel certain you could find someone who’d love to make out with you.
End it let him be alone
Sounds like an ex to me. Why block intimacy like that. Weird
He doesn’t even eat you out. It’s hard to imagine that you’re having any orgasms with this man unless you do it yourself. Don’t keep living like that. He can go disappoint someone else.
Good lord you are 23 ditch this weirdo and move on there’s way better options out there and this guy trying to call the shots on how you can be kissed is a red flag that he’s a doorknob.
It feels like shit because that’s shitty treatment, absolutely ditch him, this life is too short to waste it on boys like this, you’ll love again I guarantee you with a good kisser.
Find a guy with similar interests and intentions. Don’t waste your time with a guy who doesn’t want what you want. There are plenty of people who do. Let him know the reason why you want to break up.
You deserve a better boyfriend.
If it’s important to you, go find it.
This guy sucks.
Making out, kissing, is intimate. What he’s saying is that he doesn’t want to feel vulnerable and intimate with you. He sounds emotionally stunted. Is he on the spectrum? This is a problem that you can’t solve for him. You can only help yourself in how you react to him. Would be willing to buy into these relationship conditions for the next 5 years, 10 years, more? Does he make you happy? Does he make you laugh? Have you ever thought of having kids with this man? Would he be able to form emotional bonds with your children? It’s not for us to decide what decision you will ultimately make. At age 23, this is a heavy thing to deal with. There’s a world of possibilities right outside the door or you can choose to stay with what’s familiar to you. What’s it going to be?