My boyfriend is a sweet and wonderful guy and I’ve known him for half a year, dating for a couple months, but he’s kinda secretive when he’s going through something. He suddenly became distant a week ago, and stopped answering my texts. At first he said it was because he felt sick (which we did have a stomach issue the couple weeks prior) but now something else is bothering him so much that he’s isolating himself. I have expressed to him that I understand if he needs space but I would appreciate a check in and that I’m worried sick about him. I am anxious with being partially ghosted. I had to beg him to talk to me, and have asked if he needs a break to get through whatever he’s going through. He said we would talk on Saturday, then didn’t, then Sunday, then didn’t. Then said he would see me today, and didn’t. He said he’s too irritable and doesn’t want to ruin it. Completely valid. But it’s hurting and I feel really alone and isolated in the relationship. I told him if he continues to not talk to me then we should consider a break. I don’t want that, but I don’t want him to struggle and have me annoying him for attention when he needs to get something done. I don’t even know what it is. I want open communication. He said he will see me tomorrow but at this point I’m feeling really hurt and weird. I’m nervous about tomorrow, and going to be heartbroken if he cancels again. How do I prepare myself for this? I feel almost angry because of how hurt I feel. I just want him to talk to me.
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I think for your own happiness end it. This guy is emotionally unavailable. I dated one of these and tried my best to be okay with it, and I tried to cOmMUniCAte and ask for more, and he just shut me down.
I got really sick of it and it was a good thing it ended. Healthy guys don’t do this.
Leave him. Do you really want to accept this silent treatment long term? Imagine being married to him and he ignores you for days. Its really not worth it. Find a better boyfriend.
Don’t let someone you barely know, affect you emotionally this much. The right person WONT ghost you especially as your bf. Still think you should talk to him and give it one more chance but not for much longer if this keeps up.
Don’t wanna look back and regret spending this much time on someone who didn’t give you the time of day. 🤞
I’d take this as a sign that he has checked out of the relationship and is ghosting you.
Needing space is fine, healthy even, but he won’t communicate what’s going and has broken his promise to see you THREE times in a row now?
Unless he’s severely sick or something huge has gotten in the way of him giving you the barest of bare minimums here, I’d find it hard to make excuses for this. He just doesn’t sound like he can be bothered.
Let yourself be angry. He’s communicating (through his inaction) that you don’t matter to him.
You want him to tell you in words and he is speaking to you in actions. Do you want to know if he’s just feeling bad or if you’re being ghosted? Don’t text or call him ever again, you’ll have your answer soon enough.