Its my first relationship with intercourse and it just won’t go in. Even if I try to relax, use lube etc.
I’m not a saint, I’ve used toys before and they fit up until a circumference of 7.8cm.
My bf however has 11.5 cm circumference. I’ve scoured the internet and read about vaginism, but then wouldn’t that occur if I do it by myself as well?
This is embarrassing to post, but I’ve got a male doctor, so I’m not up for a discussion about it with him.
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I would think of it as preparing for anal. From what I know of preparing for anal is it’s just starting out with what fits then once you’re used to that gradually increase the size.
Maybe try that if you want to but don’t feel pressured to.
Edit to clarify: I don’t mean do anal.
You’re not alone. Vaginismus doesn’t always present the same way, and it is more common than you think.
It could be physical or psychological, even subconscious tension.
If you’re uncomfortable with your doctor, a pelvic floor therapist might help. No shame in seeking guidance!
Maybe get a dildo that’s somewhere between what you have and his size, and start working your way up?
That mans ego must be through the roof by now…