My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years, living together for the last year. On paper, things look stable. But in the bedroom, I feel like we’re on completely different pages.
Last Saturday, he initiated and afterwards said “That was amazing.” Meanwhile, I had spent most of the time staring at the ceiling, trying to act into it. I didn’t say anything in the moment, but it’s been eating at me.
The controversial part is: I’m starting to resent how out of touch he is. When I’ve tried to suggest changes, he either laughs it off or tells me “you’re overthinking.” It makes me feel invisible. At this point I’m even questioning if we’re compatible long-term, which feels awful because outside of this we really do work well together.
I don’t want to just blurt out “I’m not enjoying this” and crush him, but I also can’t keep pretending.
TLDR: I (28F) feel disconnected and like I’m faking it during sex, while my boyfriend (29M) thinks everything is perfect. How can I start an honest conversation about this without hurting him or blowing up the relationship?
Edit: thoughts on using gpt to translate my raw thoughts?