I’ve always told my BF that if he cheats on me, I would cheat on him back. I was always afraid he would cheat on me. Recently he ended up admitting to cheating on me after i confronted him about text messages i found on his phone. Should I cheat on him back? Or just end the relationship? I honestly don’t know what to do because I don’t want to lose him but I don’t think I can accept the fact that he cheated on me.
My boyfriend cheated on me. Cheat on him back or break up?
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Don’t stoop to his level. It won’t feel any better.
Just break up. Start a new journey. What’s the point of cheating back. You’re poisoning a relationship that won’t last even further. Complete waste of time and energy. Good luck
Do not cheat on him. That makes you just as bad as he acted.
Leave or accept. Don’t cheat back – that’s immature, heart-blackening shit
Really? I hope you read what you posted and realize how dumb of an idea anything BUT breaking up is.
Using someone to get back at your bf would be awful for multiple reasons. It’s not fair to do that to another person, sleeping with them just to get revenge and it won’t make you feel any better about your bf being cheating scum. Imo breaking up is the best course of action here.
You don’t need to cheat on him. Just leave him… find someone new later after you’re healed a little
Nobody likes a cheater-even a revenge one. You are better than that. Dump him and move on
Move on.
Those that cheat are just absolutely disgusting! If comment happy then for the love of all things holy, LEAVE! Be the bigger person and leave the dead weight behind. Why would you even lower yourself to such nonsense? Seems petty as hell and immature.
Break up
Revenge cheating is still cheating. FYI.
Break up.
“Revenge is sweet but success is sweeter.” Move on, move up and it will hurt him so much more.
Tell him you’ve broken up with him then go bang his brother/BF
don’t revenge cheat. if you do, and things get better in the relationship, the guilt will eat you alive, every day, until the truth is told.
Are these two even options? What’s the difference between you and him if you cheat on him as well
I’m so sorry you are going through this. Stooping to his level won’t make you feel better and it will just damage your soul.
I’m not going to tell you to break up because you need to make that decision on your own.
From my own experience of being cheated on, trying to forgive him and move past what has happened takes A LOT of work. On both your parts. You both need individual therapy along with couple’s counseling. Individual therapy for you to help you come to terms with the betrayal and individual therapy for him so that he can figure out what triggered him and what internal need wasn’t being met so that the next time he is about to be triggered he can recognize it and takes steps to prevent a repeat of what happened this time. All of this involves talking about how he is feeling with a therapist and exploring his internal psyche on a level that could become quite uncomfortable. But it needs to be done if he is ever to improve himself. Then he needs to learn how to communicate his needs with you so you can better help him as a partner.
Breaking up is the easier thing to do. Trying to stay is much more difficult. Both are completely valid responses to betrayal.
Just break up with him. The relationship is over. Retaliation could be fun but it only further sours the situation. Just move on with your life
Break up
Break up.
Girl spoke it into existence. If that’s what you were saying before he cheated, then there was no trust or love there. Self fulfilled prophecy
Just leave, a few months down you’ll look back and laugh. Not worth you stooping to that level
Why cheat on him? Your relationship is over as it is. Just break up.
Break up or forgive.
For the future, telling someone that you will seek petty revenge tells them that the consequences are not losing you. Perhaps he doesn’t mind a semi open relationship. Especially one where it’s open on one end and only on the other if he’s caught.
This is not real…. it’s an OF promotion.
Just break up don’t trying to get even will make things worse.
You think making your body count higher is going to get back at him? You could do that and catch an STD. You might aswell. Real up with him. Why would you just go have sex with a random person.
Devil’s advocate; don’t cheat but tell him you did because he did and break up because it was “so good” you can’t stop thinking about it. 😈😈
You already lost him. Walk away.
No, dump him and move on
Both in that order
Yall dont respond, its an OF account trying to promote.
Break up and then go do the deed, that way it’s not cheating… you can rub his nose in it, if you are feeling extra petty. I honestly don’t think that will make you feel any better in the long run.
Dump him! He’s a cheater and always will be! You’ll find someone better who is monogamous.
Cheat back then dump
End then relationship
DO NOT cheat on him, to many crazy people now a days you don’t know how he’ll react to that
Break up.
He may want you to cheat back to ease his conscience. Don’t do it.
Break up.
It’s not him you are afraid of losing, it’s who you thought and hoped he’d be. The lying cheater is who he is. It’s probably not the first time nor will it be the last.
Not good but-Honest, I would do both but I’ve been through a lot of rough and failed men. (You DID warn him) Probably just leaving is the right answer. But do call the girl and politely tell her he’s a cheat. And if you choose option 1 make sure you get satisfied. 👍
Naw gone head. All fun and games til you end up pregnant or with an std. or you get exposed or regret it in so many other ways.
Just break up and live a great life. Post it so he can see how great you are doing without him.
Just break up. If somebody doesn’t love you and respect you, just leave. Love and respect yourself.
End it.
“Cheat back.” How old are you??? Be mature and break up. You cheat and he’ll cheat again. You don’t cheat and he’ll cheat again. Why “tit for tat” that’s stupid. Move on to someone that cares about you and that you care about.
I think people come on here just to ask stupid questions.
Break up. You cheat on him back even if its for revenge it makes you no better than him.
End it. You cheating just opens the door to him cheating again because he knows all you’ll do is cheat on him. Just starts a never ending cycle
either fix it without cheating which takes a lot of hardwork or move on… 2 best options
Just break up
Just leave . No need to bring yourself to the low standard that he has set
To be clear is this “boyfriend” the tinder date from 30 minutes ago?
Break up
OF go away… We’re not interested.
I think we’re all supposed to say, oh wow, he’s an idiot, I’d never cheat on you. Your OF account is amazing. Dm me, you can cheat on him with me.
Did I get that right?
Don’t do it. Once you cross that line, you can never go back. It will make it easier for you to cross that line in future relationships. Just break up with him and move on.
Break up with him. You set a boundary, follow it.
Don’t lower your self esteem by staying with him.
After you’ve broken up. Fuck his dad, or brother or best friend. You can get revenge without cheating 😉
I have been in your shoes before… unfortunately cheating back does not make you feel any better. If he is genuinely sorry about it then maybe try and fix things and communicate. To this day I wish my ex and I worked things out and she even told me she wish she did too. If you cant make things work then leave. It is not worth holding on to.
End it. A second wrong isn’t going to make it right, and you lower yourself in the process. If cheating is wrong to you then it’s wrong period.
He’s going to do it again so just get ready. I would break up that’s mental abuse having to think about that all the time girl it’s other men out here.
so youre gonna toy with some other dudes feelings just to make your bf feel bad ?
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Break up or you are just as bad.
Break up w him
Don’t cheat back and don’t normalise cheating either… it’s not healthy to stay in a relationship like that
Just my opinion tho rest is up to you.
Break up.
You both sound horrifically immature.
Just break up, don’t lower yourself to his level,
What is your value system? Don’t change it because of what he did. So now you know him better and found out he is a cheater. Read the book: How to avoid falling in love with a jerk. Your library may have it
The relationship is over at this point. I’d suggest leaving him. There really is no need to be faithful at this point. Does he provide for you in any way?
Find the biggest bad dragon dildo in your collection and peg him with it for content duhhh
Ong cheat back or break up wit him and get laid either way send homie a video of u getting clapped and break up wit him if u want ofc u don’t have to .. at the end of the day we support women’s right and wrongs also ….STAND UP UR A BADDIE a man that’ll disrespect you is a man that don’t need to be in your life the hurt you’ll feel after leaving him is better than staying with him and the hurt continuing cause if a man cheats once he will do it again!!!❤️
Literally what would cheating on him back do? Just break up.
Break up. Just cheating on him when he did it is you stooping to his level. Be the better human and leave.
It’s not a lower level just fyi. He’s the lower level for having no self control, no concern for you aka his partner, and thinking he’s the shit.
Personally, I wouldn’t keep his ass around regardless of how I liked him BEFORE. Before as in, re-analyze how much you like his ass now that he cheated on you…cuz all those circumstances could be changed and different and unrecognizable with that consideration in the mix.
But if you think cheating on him will make your relationship even…then do what you got to do…make sure the person you cheat on him with makes his cheating partner look like an ugly bum w/bad self-esteem😈😍😇😤🤗😳🤨😉🥰🥰🥰
I personally think you should lower yourself to his standards just to prove to him that you can do it too.
Let’s not be a middle schooler.
“EndowedMelissa”? So you’re rocking a cock? Not that there ms anything wrong with that..
Ate you 14?
Break up. Don’t stop to his level
You should cheat on him back.
Then he could cheat on you for what you did.
Then you can cheat again
rinse, repeat sounds like a great relationship. Get married and have lots of babies without a paternity test. Buy a big house and combine all your kids with all the kids he’s making it will be great!
Just end it!!!!!! Willl it really make you feel better stooping to that level….. GROW UP
Break up immediately. And do you want to be a cheater also? There will future relationships. Do you want cheating on your resume???
An eye for an eye leaves the world blind…
But
Go fuck his dad
What kinda of maturity do you have that you’re gonna cheat on him back? Just be an adult and end the relationship. Stop playing games.
Just break up.
Just leave him, getting back at him will just make it worse for everybody
It sucks I know it sucks but you will regret cheating on him if you do it. There’s a saying or maybe it’s a theory I’m not sure but I agree and believe. It goes “even if you think you did something and got away with it you didn’t. You don’t. God sees. The universe sees you’ll receive your karma
End it he will never stop
Break up. You will only damage yourself if you take the low road.
When did Only Fans start allowing 14 year olds to have an account?
If you told him upfront what your reaction would be and he did it anyway, obviously, he doesn’t care if you sleep around. So what’s the point of pretending to have a relationship?
You are better than that. Keep your integrity and your grace so when you met your future husband you can tell him u never cheated even if u were cheated on. For me, that’s a strong, beautiful woman.
If you’ve got someone you want to cheat with then fuck it, go for it. As far as I’m concerned this is a free pass.
Op why stay with someone who doesn’t love you or respect you. What are you actually fighting for here?
Depends on the type of guy he is! Some people learn the hard way when the exact same thing is done to them by their loved ones, however some people learn when they lose “THE girl that got away” because of their betrayal. You know him better than anyone on Reddit
Bonjour from Canada!
Girl!
Come on!
What is this ? Cheating back?
Put some value over your head, and most importantly, your upcoming life!
Break the chains and free yourself! Find a respectable and responsible man and get married! 💒
We don’t have time to play like that!
I will pray 🙏🏽 for you today!
do what you say. than f/u. don’t make false ultimatum or say things if you can’t back it up when shit hits the fan. and if you don’t follow through, what message did you send him?
i would start planning an exit strategy covertly if he is not the compatible, worthy, honest, committed partner. however, if he is genuinely apologetic, and is wants to invest in your relationship, give him a chance unconditionally w/o shaming.
End the relationship wtf? You cheating isn’t going to fix anything he’ll just end up doing it again
Leave his sorry ass.
Realistically, you should probably leave him
If you want to throw something back in his face and your heart, you could always tell him you’ve been selling your panties or content on the side
If you don’t wanna be lying to him…
DM’s always open
Break up and be super calm and nice about it. Show him that he messed up when he lost you. If you cheat, he will just see you as a loser like he is.
Just break up.
If someone said some racial or gendered slur to you, you’d do it right back?
I’m not gonna let a POS make me a POS too.
First thing is loyalty, without it we have nothing so in my mind you should move on.
Just leave him. You’re going to play a game if you stay and cheat on him. You’re not going to come out if it good.
Nobody wants to see your porn sites, but thanks for playing.
if he cheated on you and your not even married, imagine what he will do if you are locked in with him. You should just dump Him and don’t look back
Two wrongs don’t make a right. If it’s cheat back or leave, just leave.
Why don’t you want to lose him? Do you like feeling hurt? Do you enjoy having trust issues and worrying if he’s cheating again? I’m not asking these questions to be a smart ass. I’m asking you to take a good look at why you think being without this guy is a loss.
Listen, I was in your situation. I was madly in love with this guy and I believed him when he said he was madly in love with me. He cheated. I chose to forgive. He did it again. The thing is, his entire attitude towards me slowly changed and the disrespect he showed me kept growing. I finally realized that I felt nothing for him. It hurt to go from believing I had found my one forever to realizing I only felt peace when I was not with him.
Be the better person! Don’t cheat back just leave him!
Just break up cheating back isn’t worth it just break up then find a hook up so your not cheating
Why would you cheat back? Would it even make you feel better?
Just leave. Why waste your integrity for him? Plus he could use it as a “get out of hell” card. Either that he found you with another guy first, or that “see she was okay with it, because she did it too.”
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Don’t cheat. That’s wrong, and jt doesn’t make things even. Walk away. Also, if you were always afraid he would cheat, it sounds like you have had many people cheat on you in the past, or your are paranoid, or you tend to go for.people who seem likely to cheat. Maybe after ditching this guy, you might do well to forego any relationships for a year or two, while getting some counseling to work on any relationship issues you may have.
If he’s really into the girl he cheated on you with he’s not going to care if you cheat back. Just move on.
Honey you already lowered your standards to be with someone like him any lower and your in hell
Just leave! Why would u waste your time, is this what you want for yourself?
End the relationship. If you do the same to him as he did to you, you won’t be better than him.
Be better than him. Once a cheat, always a cheat. Break and run.
It’s just gonna hurt you more in the end.
Stay and be loyal, work on the relationship …or break up. There is no other option that’s healthy.
End the relationship. What is the relationship supposed to look like after ya’ll cheat on each other. You just hating each other? Does that sound like a good revenge?
The Crash out in me answered: simple, cheat on him back, do it with someone who would hurt him, or some 🥷 you told him not to worry about. (You have options) Even if you don’t do that shit, tell him that you did, then break up with him. Throw it in his face that will hurt him forever. He will never stop thinking about it, or you.
Reasonable answer: don’t bother doing anything malicious, and just leave him. The cycle of like doing all of this evil shit to your partner and staying just hurts you as well in the long run. If you leave now, you avoid a bunch of nonsense and you’ll be a happier person for it.
Do not cheat on him. Break up and move forward. No need to tarnish your character over someone who didn’t value theirs.
Your relationship is done. I doubt it will make you feel better, but it will f*ck with his head.
Cheating back is very fun but also it could be a waste of time. Usually cheaters are just pos, it isn’t just a “mistake” that’s just who they are, so keeping the relationship for longer might just stop your growth
Break up and I’ll show you how a faithful man treats you!
Walk
lol just leave don’t stoop to that level u won’t feel better about it
Just end it. Don’t drag another person into your drama.
Just end it… or work through it if you think it is worth it. But, don’t play the tit for tat game, nothing good will come of it.
You break up.
And eye for an eye makes the whole world go blind
Two wrong’s doesn’t make it right, walk away and don’t look back.
Finish, don’t put yourself down.
You will regret about cheating back
Just leave. You may not want to lose him, but he was willing to throw your entire relationship away just to cheat. No one who does that is worth staying eith. It’ll suck, but if you cheat as well, it’ll end anyway. Keep some of your dignity
I swear people are fucking stupid and toxic.
Ahh, yes… primary school.
Cheating on him back only makes you as low as he is, break up with him, he will never change. It has something to do with who they are, their morals, or values are messed up. Anyone who doesnt care how bad its going to hurt their partner to cheat on them has something wrong with their character. So if they did it once they will definitely find it easier to do it again.
End the relationship and live your best life!
Hey , low self esteem pull the trigger. Leave him or don’t your choice but I would leave. Can you be by yourself ?????
It’s okay don’t need someone else to complete you.
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So i know you already have a ton of comments to read so if you even see this, im going to make it as short and simple as possible. If he cheated on you, hes not in love with you, and not the one.. If you’re thinking about getting revenge on him by cheating, you’re not in love with him, and again hes not the one. Now, I didnt say that you dont love him… because you probably do. He’s just not the one.
Why not both??
I have never lied or cheated on my boyfriend. Does anyone think it’s cheating when your boyfriend brings some booker home from under the septa l in Kensington Philadelphia Pennsylvania. People who are there’re nothing but druggies, sell drugs, or are hookers. Or when he goes into a casino and doesn’t want you to come in there with you. Spends hours in there would you think he is meeting another girl?
Are you 18?
You can cheat, there will be a lot cleaner than just to end our relationship and cut ties with them
CHEAT ON HIM BACK W HIS BROTHER OR BEST FRIEND. It’ll do some reallll psychological damage. Then just leave his ass. There’s not point in trying to fix it, cause if he can do it once. He’ll do it again. And the next time, he’ll be a lot better at hiding it, cause he was alr caught once.
Just dump and block him. Don’t play his game. You should also publicly shame him as a cheater.
Even though he is wrong to cheat, I can’t understand why you would want to do it. It’s not going to make you feel better. Also, if you had to give your BF a warning ahead of time about what would happen if he cheated, then it sounds like you were aware on some level of his tendencies.
Please get away from him. It’s normal to feel heartbroken but you will get over him in time. Just be patient with yourself.
Don’t cheat on him. Leave the relationship. Find someone better. U deserve it.
Keep the balance, return the energy😅
Cheat on him? Why? He’s not the person for you. Don’t debate this with him. Just move on.
It will make you feel worse.Pain is mandatory but suffering is optional.
Ask him for a free pass to sleep with someone else once.
Bruh…come on…
Relationship is over. Break up and find someone better.
Walk away!
Contact with me recently I had breakup 🙃
Be the better person just leave him
For fcks sake don’t cheapen yourself stooping to his level. Just leave! Will you feel proud of yourself letting someone random run through you just to get back at a guy who doesn’t deserve the dust off your shoes? It’s not worth it just walk…
Don’t cheat just leave and do better
Dump him and move on
You should end it because you don’t know how he would react some guys are unpredictable when intentionally hurt.
Break up, he’s not worth the effort, then you can sleep with someone else.
Don’t cheat on him too. You might not like yourself afterwards. Talk it through. Then decide to stay or go.
Cheating back is not the way. End it and move along.
“Cheat on him back ?”. Honey you need some self respect.
Just leave him. Don’t cheat back. You dont want to lose him but you need to.
U lost him the min cheated on you.
Break up – playing games will get you nowhere
I really think that you should not cheat back on him and stoop down to his level!!! You would also then be involving a third party which is totally wrong and very unfair!!! Leave him……there are millions of fish in the ocean!!!!! Be the bigger, wiser, smarter and classier person!!!!! You will feel so much better about it, use your agency, stand tall, do it and feel great for making the mature and right decision and empowering yourself while, disempowering him!!!! You go woman…just NIKE IT!!!!!
Do whatever you please to do? If cheating on him is what you want to do go for it. Revengeful behaviors come with consequences. Leave with peace of mind.
You block him without saying a word. Just disappear.
Break up and both of you work on yourselves. Too much toxicity.
Cheating back on him is 5 year old stuff, dont drop down to his level. Its not cool cheat back because that makes you a cheater as well and im sure you dont want people talking about you having that title, and its not a flex if you do btw.
You dump him, delete everything that had to do with him and move on. You now have the ability to say “he cheated on me so I dumped him”. Your took the high road and chose to be the bigger person.
Cheating on him is not going to repair the trust he has destroyed.
Do you deserve more than a relationship that you will never feel 100% confident in? How many years do you think it will take you to stop wondering If this is the time he has decided to be unfaithful again?
It ain’t no fun if the homies can’t have none.
Just end it. Lemme phuck you can tell him you cheated on him with ne
What will cheating on him back achieve? It won’t make you feel any better and he’s already proven he doesn’t value you or your relationship. You would only be hurting yourself.
Just leave him and start over.