i (25f) was told by my boyfriend (24m) that he deleted his fb because he thought it was giving him too much brain rot and he wanted to focus on being more “tech free.” i thought it was a great idea. last night, though, we were talking and he received a call from a woman on fb and he snatched the phone off the table but i saw the name. knew exactly who that named belonged to. i asked him who called and he kept pretending that he was stupid and didn’t know what i was talking about.
i haven’t had fb since i was 15 so i didn’t know that even if you delete the profile you can still keep the messenger so while he was showering i went through his phone and lo and behold!! there were all these messages with said person in the fb messenger of a profile i thought was gone. for the last 3-4 days they have been talking constantly. sending photos back and forth. talking about they’ve been thinking about each other a lot and she was so happy that he finally added her. she asked him if he was single because his profile said in a relationship and he said that he is single and forgot to update his status. they kept reminiscing on their relationship and how they only argued whenever he had to go back to work (he’s in the military so can’t say i’m shocked that he’s an insecure cheating pos). i don’t see how any of this would be relevant in a conversation between “friends” as she claimed they were when i confronted her. i also don’t see why sending pictures of your body would be something you send to a “friend” especially when it’s a friend you slept with several times in the past.
ANYWAY in her profile picture i noticed there was another guy with her so i reactivated my ex’s page to look up close and saw that it was her boyfriend. i broke up with mine obviously and cut ties immediately but in the back of my mind i keep thinking about how her boyfriend should know the kind of conversations that these two were having all day for the last few days. should i message him or let him find out on his own?
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Yes
Totally up to you, but perhaps weigh if this is vindictive toward your ex or a warning for the other bf that you would appreciate and word it appropriately.
She crossed a line and dragged him with her. Tell her boyfriend before he wastes more time on a lie.
Look if your boyfriend is able to cheat, that means he’s got a lot going for himself. Women don’t get intimate with broke men anymore. It’s 2025. You should continue to love him and stay with him even though he cheated.
I would… why should ppl get away with shit like that?
Do you have screenshots of the conversation, to provide as proof? If yes, go for it. Keeping in mind that this kind of things can always backfire. So next question, would you be able to handle the backfire?
If you don’t have the screenshots I wouldn’t do anything. It would be a strangers word against my girlfriend word. Personally I wouldn’t want to be cough up on that.
Were they hooking up and sending nudes or just texts and basic pictures back and forth? He lied about his relationship status but it doesn’t mean that she did.
Not that I am defending him, but did anything actually happen between them. Or did you just find his shitty behavior unacceptable?
If they haven’t seen each other, I’d let it go.
Yup!! I’ll always say yes to that
Totally. Not only because you will think back on this years later and wonder about it, but also because it will give you at least some revenge
I would because I despise dishonesty. Buckle up bitch and get ready to welcome to karma.
Yes feel free to tell him. He has a right to at least be aware before he continues in the relationship.
And good for you. He presents himself as single, make it so and stick to it. Block him from all aspects of your life. He’s a pos you’re better off without.
You deserve so much more and you’ll find it in the right partner!
Updateme and let us know how this goes.
Didn’t read the rest of that very long post just the question but my answer is yes. I saw a video of someone once saying why are you trying to cover for someone else being an asshole and hurting other innocent people. Screw that. Let them know
Your post is a bit vague, so I’m not sure if this is an ex (someone he once slept with but is just flirting with now) or someone he’s currently sleeping with, or someone he just met online and hasn’t had sex with at all. Make sure you know exactly what’s going on before informing her partner.
I would want to know, so I would always tell. What they do with that information on the other hand, is up to them.
I would want to k ow if I were the bf in that situation. Absolutely.