Me, my boyfriend, and my friend were supposed to go to a standup comedy show tonight. My friend also invited her cousin, who’s new to the city and whom we met for the first time. After the show we went to a bar, got a bit drunk and walked back to my building (my friend and I live in the same building). While we were walking back, the plan had been that she would crash at my friend’s, but when we reached our building, she said she had some stuff to do early tomorrow, and decided she was going to walk to her place which according to Google Maps is a half hour minute walk. Unprompted my boyfriend offered to walk her, I wanted to walk with him too, but I was tired and tipsy and my friend also convinced me to go her place and finish the episode we were on.
My boyfriend was supposed to come back to my place after, but he texted me that he was just going to go to his place since it’s a 10 minute walk from hers. I was holding it together knowing that he was going to come back but now I have a terrible feeling for no good reason. Like maybe it’s stupid but I don’t like that his last thing of the day was a half hour walk with her rather than being with me. My mind also keeps going back to any jokes that only the two of them laughed at hard during the show, how much they talked, what she wore, how she looked. Can someone calm me down?
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You didn’t join your bf on your walk because you trust him 🙂 don’t be insecure about that. 30 mins is a long walk and he’s probably tired. You’re tired now too! Would be bold af for him to betray you so brazenly
Hope it all works out for you in the end
He sounds like a nice guy for making sure she got home safely, and unless he’s given you reason to not, you should trust him and relax.
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>I don’t like that his last thing of the day was a half hour walk with her rather than being with me.
It’s dangerous for a drunk woman to walk that far alone. It’s nice when a trusted guy offers to walk with and be a safety net so to speak. It sounds like your bf is a nice guy.
>I was tired and tipsy and my friend also convinced me to go her place and finish the episode we were on. My boyfriend was supposed to come back to my place after, but he texted me that he was just going to go to his place since it’s a 10 minute walk from hers.
If you felt that way, he likely did too. Makes sense he would want to go home, and it seems you trust him enough to walk her home without you. That’s good.
>My mind also keeps going back to any jokes that only the two of them laughed at hard during the show, how much they talked, what she wore, how she looked.
Sounds like you’re a bit paranoid, but none of us were there to see any of this, and we don’t know your bf like you do. I always say to trust your gut, and if it is screaming warnings, then you should take it somewhat seriously.
You could always call your bf and tell him you just wanted to make sure he got home safe and that you miss him. Hearing that he is home safe and tired like you will likely ease your mind. Be honest, chat with him for a bit about the night, maybe ask how the walk was. If she gave off “trying to steal your man vibes” then address them with your bf when you see him again and when you are sober. Just make sure you are reading the signs properly and warn him if she seems to be like that. If he is guilty of doing things with her, you should be able to tell based on his body language when you share your concerns about the way she acted towards him.
Do you not have Ubers where you live?
The foundation of any strong relationship is trust, in fact it is the most important thing in my view.
Without trust the relationship is doomed, for example if my partner wanted to use my cell phone I’d hand it to her, I’ve got nothing to hide.
Don’t beat yourself up over it, you trust your boyfriend, it’s a good thing.
You two are not compatible. Either you trust him or you always assume the worst without asking.
Get therapy.