My boyfriend didn’t invite me to his friend’s party and is lying that he’s going to dinner.

My 28F boyfriend 34M told me that he is going out to dinner with his friend today around 6, and that we can meet up around 9 at his place after.

What kind of didn’t make sense to me about the timing of the event was that it takes him over an hour to get home from school, almost an hour and a half, and the place he said they’re meeting up is also an hour away from him. My boyfriend absolutely hates driving and wasting gas, it is a comment he makes all the time.

So for him to drive him after work, get there by 4:30, be there for a half hour and then drive another hour for dinner just didn’t make sense.

I had a weird feeling, so I went on one of his buddie’s Facebook pages. On his timeline, he posted a backyard party event today that he is having, where all of my boyfriends friend’s were commenting that they are going. Along with all of their wives and girlfriends. The event starts at 4.

Before I saw this post, I had already told my boyfriend that if he is going out with his friend, I don’t want to rush him and we can just meet up tomorrow. He assured me that he’ll be home by 9 and we will chill then.

The same friend he said he is going out to dinner with, is also going to be at this party.

I have been with my boyfriend for 10 months. I also work with this friend that he said he is going out to dinner with.

Yesterday, I had to call this friend about a project. The phone rang twice and he sent me straight to voicemail, and did not get back to me today about said project. He has also been acting weird around me at work.

Should I be worried? I don’t understand why my boyfriend would attend a party with a bunch of couples alone, and not invite me. I’ve invited him to cookouts with my friends. We haven’t met each other’s family yet and I only know the one friend of his that I work with, apart from that I’ve never met his friends.

I’m just confused on why he made up a lie that he is going out to dinner. Not inviting me is one thing, he could have been honest that he’s going to a cookout and left it at that. But to lie that he’s going out to dinner with a friend that has clearly stated that he will be at this party, is really throwing me off.

TL;DR – I discovered that my boyfriend lied about dinner plans on Facebook, and is going to a party with all his friends and their wives instead.