Hey, I know a lot of people here might not approve of this, but I’ve been seeing someone I met online, and for a while, things were genuinely really good between us. We clicked emotionally and kept growing closer. There’s a bit of an age gap between us, all legal of course, but he sometimes mentioned being worried I might be too young for him, even though I never felt like it was an issue between us.
Out of nowhere, two days ago, he just stopped responding. I’ve gone through every possible explanation in my head maybe he lost his phone, maybe something bad happened to him. I know that sounds dramatic, but it’s just not like him to disappear like this. I’m not blocked anywhere, and our last few conversations weren’t tense or negative at all.
I’ve even questioned whether he was only talking to me for the wrong reasons, but we never crossed any inappropriate lines, and he never made me feel unsafe. I honestly don’t know what to think anymore. I haven’t been able to sleep or eat properly because I’m so worried. I just really want to hear from him, and I don’t know what to do. I feel stuck and scared something’s happened.
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You gotta let him go
>There’s a bit of an age gap between us
How much?
Maybe he’s married
Girl I get it, that sudden silence hits hard. But if it’s been two days and he ghosted with no warning, that’s a choice. Don’t chase, let him show you who he really is.
Maybe report him as missing? He will either turn up with a couple secrets to share or he is actually missing. Better to be safe then sorry perhaps?
Know any of his mates or family? Ask them
ghosting’s the worst ugh
It definitely sounds like he might’ve already had a partner and got found out
I recently broke up with gf of a couple years.i get it.
Did he disappear from you, or from everything online?
99% of the time, when people just ghost, it’s because they suck. I will say that one time, I had just started dating a guy who just disappeared, and it turned out he’d been in a really bad car accident. He had a friend call me 3 days later, though, once he was able to communicate.
Have you googled his name? Maybe he’s been arrested or in an accident. Maybe he just sucks and his wife found out or something.
What is the age difference and how long have you been talking?
Probably married having a bit of fun on the side either you were pushing to hard to take it to the next level (where he knows he can’t go) got spooked and gapped OR got caught out OR felt guilty. Either way it may be a blessing whatever you do do not chase – or you may end up with some unwanted triangulation
Smh, you just got played . He got woman now and he probably use you by now.
I’m gonna say he either is married, or he got arrested for talking to girls who legit are underage online.
Maybe your boyfriend is married with a family and his wife found out about you.
His wife is probably getting suspicious
Sounds like the wife discovered your relationship.
You never met him in person?
Either he has a wife or a GF. Dnt expect from him anymore. Even if he reach out again ditch him.
This has happened to me with a friend of mine that I am close to as well.
Chances are he is just busy and hasn’t been able to reply yet. It’s only been two days. If you aren’t blocked that means he still wants to talk to you, but he can’t at the moment. When he comes back ask him for an explanation. I’m sure everything will be ok.
For example: The last time I talked to this friend was 4 days ago. I haven’t looked at discord or turned on my computer since Wednesday night because I’ve been terrified and I just needed a break from everything that I was feeling. I’ve been hiding, and I feel awful about it, but I do plan on talking to him again. I just need some time.
You don’t really have to worry. He most likely just ghosted you. If his interested he’ll reach out in a week or two.
2 days isn’t very long.
He patient. He will hit you back.
just throwing this out here
being in a difficult marriage for 4 years now i’m 63
no intimacy
last year I decided to flirt ok (jbh)
met a girl younger than me online
exchanged cell numbers
began simply talking
i need a sincere friendship
she was honest
as i was
we out of the gate said married
yet alone
not because we can’t conduct ourselves as married
fun was shared in conversation
then flirting
that was last year
she is a real person and so am i
we have proven that to each other multiple times since we met online
we are just a few hrs away from each other with busy schedules of our own
so…….
what is the point you may ask?
if this guy hasn’t entertained seeing you in person with some sort of legitimate plan
don’t feel fear!
fear is a doorway to insanity
chill out
learn from this how valuable your emotions are
and keep them in check
i refuse to accuse anyone of wrong doing
the thought here is your restless nights
and personal depravity
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