My boyfriend disappeared

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Hey, I know a lot of people here might not approve of this, but I’ve been seeing someone I met online, and for a while, things were genuinely really good between us. We clicked emotionally and kept growing closer. There’s a bit of an age gap between us, all legal of course, but he sometimes mentioned being worried I might be too young for him, even though I never felt like it was an issue between us.

Out of nowhere, two days ago, he just stopped responding. I’ve gone through every possible explanation in my head maybe he lost his phone, maybe something bad happened to him. I know that sounds dramatic, but it’s just not like him to disappear like this. I’m not blocked anywhere, and our last few conversations weren’t tense or negative at all.

I’ve even questioned whether he was only talking to me for the wrong reasons, but we never crossed any inappropriate lines, and he never made me feel unsafe. I honestly don’t know what to think anymore. I haven’t been able to sleep or eat properly because I’m so worried. I just really want to hear from him, and I don’t know what to do. I feel stuck and scared something’s happened.

Comments

  1. CharacterOffer6146 Avatar

    You gotta let him go

  2. mickturner96 Avatar

    >There’s a bit of an age gap between us

    How much?

  3. Ok_Goal_7945 Avatar

    Maybe he’s married

  4. SenaLuxe Avatar

    Girl I get it, that sudden silence hits hard. But if it’s been two days and he ghosted with no warning, that’s a choice. Don’t chase, let him show you who he really is.

  5. Logical-Ad-5669 Avatar

    Maybe report him as missing? He will either turn up with a couple secrets to share or he is actually missing. Better to be safe then sorry perhaps? 

    Know any of his mates or family? Ask them 

  6. Feawerdel Avatar

    ghosting’s the worst ugh

  7. sunglassesgator Avatar

    It definitely sounds like he might’ve already had a partner and got found out

  8. Commercial_Arm6212 Avatar

    I recently broke up with gf of a couple years.i get it.

  9. GenoFlower Avatar

    Did he disappear from you, or from everything online?

    99% of the time, when people just ghost, it’s because they suck. I will say that one time, I had just started dating a guy who just disappeared, and it turned out he’d been in a really bad car accident. He had a friend call me 3 days later, though, once he was able to communicate.

    Have you googled his name? Maybe he’s been arrested or in an accident. Maybe he just sucks and his wife found out or something.

    What is the age difference and how long have you been talking?

  10. ImaginaryNet837 Avatar

    Probably married having a bit of fun on the side either you were pushing to hard to take it to the next level (where he knows he can’t go) got spooked and gapped OR got caught out OR felt guilty. Either way it may be a blessing whatever you do do not chase – or you may end up with some unwanted triangulation

  11. Cautious-Item-1487 Avatar

    Smh, you just got played . He got woman now and he probably use you by now.

  12. cheeseburghers Avatar

    I’m gonna say he either is married, or he got arrested for talking to girls who legit are underage online.

  13. No_Object_8722 Avatar

    Maybe your boyfriend is married with a family and his wife found out about you.

  14. Specialist-Ad5796 Avatar

    His wife is probably getting suspicious

  15. BunchaMalarkey123 Avatar

    Sounds like the wife discovered your relationship.

    You never met him in person?

  16. CarelessAd6681 Avatar

    Either he has a wife or a GF. Dnt expect from him anymore. Even if he reach out again ditch him.

  17. Amethyst_Ninjapaws Avatar

    This has happened to me with a friend of mine that I am close to as well.

    Chances are he is just busy and hasn’t been able to reply yet. It’s only been two days. If you aren’t blocked that means he still wants to talk to you, but he can’t at the moment. When he comes back ask him for an explanation. I’m sure everything will be ok.

    For example: The last time I talked to this friend was 4 days ago. I haven’t looked at discord or turned on my computer since Wednesday night because I’ve been terrified and I just needed a break from everything that I was feeling. I’ve been hiding, and I feel awful about it, but I do plan on talking to him again. I just need some time.

  18. AngelicDivineHealer Avatar

    You don’t really have to worry. He most likely just ghosted you. If his interested he’ll reach out in a week or two.

  19. TumorYaelle Avatar

    2 days isn’t very long.

  20. droppingscience311 Avatar

    He patient. He will hit you back.

  21. Difficult-Diver-8087 Avatar

    just throwing this out here
    being in a difficult marriage for 4 years now i’m 63
    no intimacy
    last year I decided to flirt ok (jbh)
    met a girl younger than me online
    exchanged cell numbers
    began simply talking
    i need a sincere friendship
    she was honest
    as i was
    we out of the gate said married
    yet alone
    not because we can’t conduct ourselves as married
    fun was shared in conversation
    then flirting
    that was last year
    she is a real person and so am i
    we have proven that to each other multiple times since we met online
    we are just a few hrs away from each other with busy schedules of our own
    so…….
    what is the point you may ask?

    if this guy hasn’t entertained seeing you in person with some sort of legitimate plan
    don’t feel fear!
    fear is a doorway to insanity
    chill out
    learn from this how valuable your emotions are
    and keep them in check
    i refuse to accuse anyone of wrong doing
    the thought here is your restless nights
    and personal depravity

  22. UNeedInspoandnonames Avatar

    Google avoidant attachment style