i love my boyfriend more than anything else in the world. he’s genuinely my soulmate and i do believe from the bottom of my heart that he loves me as much as i love him, because even though he’s less affectionate than i am, he can be so incredibly sweet in the rare times when he’s feeling more sentimental. but he just doesn’t find me that pretty, and holy shit it sucks.
i’m already super insecure about my appearance. i don’t actually really consider myself to be necessarily ugly, but i can just tell i’m not pretty. i never receive compliments from anyone other than my parents if i don’t bring up my insecurities first. my boyfriend isn’t much different. he’ll compliment mostly my body when we’re having any sort of sexual moment together, and he’ll compliment my face too, it’s just obviously natural my body will also be a topic of conversation during those moments. but when we’re not, he’ll just never really compliment my face. maybe in his mind he does it often, but to me it feels like never. i tell him how handsome and good looking he is 99% of the time he sends me a photo of himself, and i know that he’s him and i’m me but i just wish he would copy me in that sense.
i don’t think he finds me ugly, but he definitely doesn’t find me pretty. i just wish i were the most beautiful girl in his eyes or that he at least were a good liar and made me believe that. i’ve tried telling him to compliment me more because we’re very open about these things, but after a while he just sort of forgot i guess. i wish i didn’t feel as horribly as i do about it but it’s just so hard to get over because i’m so insecure about my appearance already, i just want my own boyfriend to look at me and fall in love all over again rather than just have to deal with the way that i look not being his type.
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It be like that
bro thats fucked up he should be matching ur energy
I think you’re having some delusional (a fixed belief that cannot be altered by conflicting evidence.) situation about your appearance.
You’re projecting your insecurities. “I don’t think I’m pretty and hence he does not think I’m pretty.”
Some people really, really struggle with communicating with their partner about how they feel. Because telling them that they are pretty, believe it or not is a form of vulnerability.
It’s pretty common to bottle up the positive feelings you have for your partner because you don’t want to dump that on them.
Think of how guys don’t really compliment each other.
This is something you should take to couples counselling. There’s no need to sit there building resentment for years. I’m sure that’s not what he wants you to feel.
I don’t think it’s fair to blame yourself. As long as you’ve been open and honest and explained how it upsets you, you shouldn’t have to say it again.
But then again I get you because why should you even have to say this? If it’s easy for him to call singers etc pretty it should be easy enough to call the person you love pretty as well. You want someone head over heels about you and that is completely valid. And if hes inexpressive and you dont like it and it bothers you this much, genuinely leave because clearly its eating up at your self esteem.
Im very upset to read about how you don’t feel like you’re good looking. Im sure you’re a really good looking girl and if you are genuinely not confidence and self care genuinely makes up for the way someone appears. Im going to be honest ive always felt the most confident single. My ex was like your boyfriend, he would rarely compliment me rarely appreciate me and he also never made me feel like I was appreciated or loved. You deserve someone who matches your energy, not rarely complimenting you. Why be with someone that is half arsing it. If you feel like this is something you can talk with him and maybe resolve go ahead. But you’ve already done this before and it doesn’t seem like the type of thing you can get over or ignore.