My boyfriend (27) has a porn addiction and it’s making me not want to be intimate with him. We’ve talked about it but nothing changes. I desperately want to have a regular sex life but I just can’t be with him know he’s getting off constantly to porn every day. It grosses me out. What do I do? What would you do?
My boyfriend has a porn addiction
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If he won’t change or seek help, just break up. You can’t force him to change and you aren’t getting what you need from him.
Well, yeah you do but besides the point.
Just text me with your fucking explaination or ima drive over.
Please define what you mean by “addiction”
It’s drastic, but he must agree to put parental controls on his phone and only you have the password. And you have to make sure he cannot simply uninstall the app. (He may also look at porn on other devices). If he admits it is an addiction and seriously wants to spend his life with you, then he will agree to the conditions.
If nothing changes, then nothing will change.
Leave. Gotta accept people for who they are and what they can offer. He can’t offer you a porn free love life. It’s you, him and porn.
Find a new boyfriend. Why is this hard?
Know your worth, set those boundaries, and leave his ass. The addiction will always be there and it will always be an issue for you. You deserve the love that you want, don’t settle!
What kind is he watching tho
So does mine, 10 years in, just found his pocket pussy in the bathroom drawer. Not only is it gross it’s ignorant and not appropriate for being part of a family or relationship dynamic.. nor should he be spending money on stuff like that … porn gets boring he will progress.. do your self a favour now . I’m leaving a decade later ; so frustrated w myself for staying but that’s what we do. I promise it will only get worse
You have to define what you mean by addiction. Watching porn and masturbating are both, in and of themselves, pretty normal things to do. It is only really considered an addiction if it begins to impact things like work or his ability to have a normal sex life
Are you the one turning down sex or is he? Because that makes a massive difference in what is or isn’t good advice
As for the cliche redditors saying to dump him, if the problem is that you want someone who never watches porn then you’ll never find anyone. Scientists who have tried to study the impacts of porn have struggled to find control populations because they routinely cannot find people who have never watched it.
Having an abstinence and shame based approach to sex is often quite harmful itself, which is why my above clarifying question is so important to answer
He’s 27 not 57. There are plenty of women that luv to be with him especially if you consider that a flaw. Step out into the dating world and let us know how that goes
First of all WHO doesn’t recognize porn addiction as a disease. It is treated as a compulsion, which is dealt on a very different way than a addiction.
Second, considering that it is a compulsion, he should examine and focus on the impact of said habit on his life. Is this compulsion making him have any kind of dysfubction? How can he improve?
Third, masturbation is something that every single guy do, and for a good reason because it improves health and can prevent prostate cancer.