My boyfriend has been racing a long time now and he says that he’s really good at it. I don’t mind him having this skill but I do mind when he’s swimming on public roads. I’m always worried that he will get himself into some real danger but he ensures me that as long as a driver has skill it wouldn’t be an issue and that he never risks anything that he couldn’t handle. I see myself having a future with him and it stresses me out when he would go racing on two-way mountain roads at dawn with his friends. Is he being immature or do I not understand the racing community enough?
my boyfriend is a racer and i don’t know what to think
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>Is he being immature
Yes
On the track is absolutely fine… On the roads is not!
If he thinks it’s okay because “he has skill” then he’s an r/IdiotsInCars clip waiting to happen!
What happens if he ever crashes? I doubt he would ever be like “yeah, sorry babe, guess I don’t have skill..” no he will always pretend like he has skill when that’s his excuse to do this dangerous behaviour.
He’s obviously immature.
Literally the best drivers in the world have fatal accidents.
If he thinks being self-evaluated good driver makes him immune from accidents really just means he’s very stupid.
Being part of car culture and being a dumbass and traffic (not a racetrack) are two very different things! He’s just looking for a dopamine run. You can have as much skill as God himself but you can’t stop another driver from hitting his brakes or swerving in front of you because they got fear in their hearts or audacity in their veins! Your man need to be more responsible or he’s going to f*** both your lives up
Driving like that on public roads is stupid, no matter how good you think you are, there’s someone that is a complete moron that will negate any “skill” you think you have. Can’t control other people’s driving, so drive cautiously and be predictable.
Swimming on the road is inappropriate cos he’s too far from the beach for the togs-undies rule to apply in his favour
Jokes aside, he’s an idiot if he thinks that his driving skill makes it safe to race on roads. Other drivers may do stupid things and if he’s speeding he’ll kill them
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What’s the goal? Glory on public roads is tantamount to short term gambling luck. Is there a specific reason he can’t race legally? Wouldn’t that be closer to applying the skill?
No racing on roads. Good way to get killed.
Mentally he’s a child. There are any number of uncertainties when you decide to go racing on mountain roads or rural roads. It doesn’t matter how skilled you are. There can always be something that you don’t factor in, or other people who just suddenly appear that you didn’t think would be there. He’s not only jeopardizing his own life but others as well, potentially.
Only you know if you want a future with a child or not but people like this generally do not change just FYI.
As the police road craft book says, 80% of people think they are above average drivers. If he’s serious about his skills and not a bullsh**er, tell him to prove it and go pass his advanced driving test from the Institute of advanced motoring. That’s all about real driving skills, and safety, not some nonsense about racing skills, which statistically will lead to an accident eventually it’s just a matter of time. Road conditions change unpredictably and some times it’s not his skill, but the skills of another driver you can’t control.
My cousins skilled husband just died while street racing. Much like any time youre on the road, its not only YOU but EVERYONE ELSE. People pull out in front of you when youre going 150 youre fucked.
Just look at Paul Walker:
He died because his friend, also an experienced driver was going over 3 times the speed limit.
I still don’t get why Porche settled, being an experienced and professional driver still doesn’t justify driving way too fast on a public road. A racetrack is heavily controlled, while on public roads you need to tale into account so much more factors out of your control.
Honestly, I wouldn’t ride in the car with him driving ever again. What he’s doing is so insanely dangerous
A real driver would save his skills for the track rather than risk losing the right to be behind the wheel in the first place. Your bf is just an adrenaline junkie looking for an excuse to get his heart rate up.
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Think about the trauma you will endure if something bad happened to him or if he killed someone else. Especially if you have kids at some point. It would be devastating. Maybe your gut is telling you you should be with someone who appreciates you more in that regard and doesn’t take stupid chances.
Simple question:
If he kills someone else on the road by racing, would he still be the ‘person you can see a future with’? Be honest with yourself.
He might be happy to risk his life, and no matter how good he believes his ‘skills’ are, he knows he’s doing that. Does he recognise that he’s also putting others at risk? Does he care?
If he’s that skilled of a driver why doesn’t he race professionally? Sounds like he’s actually not as good as he says
On the road as in where there is just normal ppl driving about their day? Absolutely not ok he can take that on a race track or where it’s permitted.. that really infuriates me more than anything seeing ppl racing on the street where there are innocent ppl driving about their day you never know who you can crash into..a family a husband a mom a pregnant woman an elderly list goes on and that’s just not ok idc if he thinks he’s being safe it’s not.
how old is he? what 23 at the oldest? this is extremely immature, I would bet he has never seen dismembered bodies or dead bodies horrifically mauled by car crashes. Leave his ass or he will kill you, himself, or others. Not a man but a child.
I’ve seen men like this kill themselves and other people through their arrogance. Assuming the rules don’t apply to you because you’re self proclaimed a “good driver”. Doesn’t mean your not gonna make a mistake or be victim to someone else’s mistake on the road. It’s the most immature and arrogant point of view. And as I say, I’ve seen people die because of it. Tell him to grow the fuck up.
He’s immature and he’s selfish. It’s one thing to risk his own safety, he has no right to risk the safety of others and that’s what every street racer does.