I (22 female) and my boyfriend (21 male), live together with some financial help from his mother. That being said we’re still working and pay rent and my boyfriend is in college and working a really bad part time job. Now I know we’re adults and this is what adults do and we’re incredibly privileged since we have financial help but I guess this new reality of adulthood is taking us a while to cope with. Before this we both lived with our parents and only had to worry about ourselves. I wouldn’t trade living with him for the world but I notice how depressed he’s become. I understand because I was facing the same issues when I was working retail and going to school, it’s hard to go to a job you hate and take never ending classes and I know how it’s emotional toll can harm you. I just don’t know how to help him, and I feel so selfish and horrible for saying that sometimes I feel like I don’t matter. I know what he’s going through and how little time he has for himself but that also means we mainly have been seeing each other at home after work. Lately any free time he has he’s just playing video games, I always knew he was a gamer and I never had I problem with it but I feel like we barely talk anymore. I talking, hoping he’ll respond but he almost never responds or seems interested in what I’m saying, and when he talks about games I guess I can be the same way even though I’m trying to be better about it so I don’t know if I can even be upset about it. I guess I’m just venting right now. But my boyfriend is depressed and I miss him, how can I help?
TLDR: my boyfriend and I are being hit with adulthood and were struggling to get used to it, now I’m trying to help him with his depression.