My (19f) boyfriend (25m) has a cuckholding kink. We are currently doing long distance until next year. He has been very open about this since we met (it’s a fresh relationship) and I haven’t done anything yet. I’ve been nervouse because I don’t want to do it and he be upset after. He told me that he’s experimented with it in past relationships and has reassured me many times that he is very much into it and wouldn’t care at all. It’s been a bit difficult remaining celibate as I have a very high intimacy drive, but I would go without. However, I’m planning on going out with an old fwb tonight, which he knows about . But I am very nervous. Any advice here?? Is anyone else in a situation? How did you ease into it? Thanks in advance
Edit: i’ve said in a few comments, but I guess I should say here, I’m not particularly opposed to it, just very new to it and looking for advice to feel more open!
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I can’t wait to hear the update about the inevitable fallout of this relationship.
Remember to do it on your own terms, remember overall your going out to have fun first if at any point you don’t feel like it will enrich your sense of happiness, then don’t do it.
If you truly want it, then nothing is stopping you.
You two are not sexually compatible. Do NOT do anything you aren’t comfortable with. Leave him.
What’s cuckholding? I’m scared to google
This will be over soon
My husband has somewhat of a kink for that too. But in the end he would never let anyone else touch me, and I dont want that either. I’ve explored videos but thats about it. He is a very dominant man and wouldn’t be able to handle it. If you feel that strongly about remaining celibate and don’t want anyone else to touch you then go with your gut. Mabe suggest other things? Explore more options. We once talked about letting someone we trust watch us but im honestly not even down for that. Other things I have learned peak my interest. I think it also depends on what end of that cuckhold he is on. Don’t be afraid to ask questions and don’t be afraid to stand your ground if you feel a certain way, this is your life, your happiness and you have full control
This is the unholy type of thing the Bible was written for. I see no way this ends in a healthy long term relationship
Yeah, that relationship has already finished its course.
People being entitled to their kinks is a new trend that I find hilarious, you aren’t owed this shit lol he’ll live
19 and 25?
Everyone’s take on this is so different to mine 😂
You sound keen, although nervous he might end up feeling different if you do as he asks?
But also, if he is into it, your long distance so it’s not like he can watch you with the fwb tonight?
Does he like you describing it to him, does he want to watch on FaceTime? Like what. And if he ended up actually liking and not being upset about it, do you think you’d like even for the minute being able to fulfil the intimacy you said you have a drive for?
This world is so fucked.
The state of modern relationships
To me this lands squarely in the “why bother” category. If you have to complicate your life with multiple relationships to keep your boyfriend happy, why not just ditch the boyfriend and take up with someone with less complicated needs? Relationships can be tricky enough without adding in unnecessary extra variables.
Knew a guy in college that was super into that. Any time I see that word I am forever grateful life separated me from him. We got back in touch a few years later and he was just as mentally unstable as always. Bring kink shaming back.
When you break up, can I get his number? 😅
I guess you have to just do it so you’ll feel more confortable next time.
If you don’t want to do it, don’t. You’ll have no regrets.
Yes, that is my husband’s thing too but also a little deeper then just that. For him it has to do with the feeling of being on top and in control and just dominant, hes an ass so that makes sense lol. If he is cool with waiting then that is awesome. If you want to try it thats okay too, make sure to have a safe word? Just in case you decide you do want to try. Everyone has there thing. You can always start small and go from there. Just explore, find what you like. Just remember not toet anyone push you into something your not ready for tho. There is so much out there .
Goddamn.
Will he be there or not? Sounds like cheating if he isn’t present and/or if you guys are not in an agreed open relationship.
Stay safe out there 👍
Girl run
What is cuckholding
Well…as long as he isn’t forcing you to do anything you wouldn’t want to do, I guess just fuck whoever and make sure he knows? Otherwise end it. Like if it’s a fresh relationship, long distance is tough but you’ll find out your boundaries around kinks soon I guess
Cuckholding kink at 25 is crazyy…. red flag. But you considering it at 19 is even crazier. This is type of sht you dont get into until regular sex life is so boring for you that you need extra spice to get you there. Yalls age shouldnt be having trouble getting to the end goal. Rather should be easy and likely going at it 3 times a day no problem. Idk, thats my take tho.
If you are both into it with great communication it might work. If he is into it and you are not maybe
Lmao the fuse on this disaster bomb has been lit!
Gross. Do you whatever you want though.
This is when you know bro watched too much porn. It’s actually embarrassing and sad knowing men get off to other dudes plowing their lady.
What’s up with these age gaps? 😭 am I crazy?
Might find yourself happy in a monogamous relationship with someone close, yah know something traditional. Those have a much higher satisfaction / success rate
You can always try and if u dont like it dont do it again. I have been with maybe 5 other guys and filmed it to my man. I always told the other guys that this is a 1 time thing and im filming it and my man is going to see the videos.
If y’all aren’t into the same kinks, it’s not gonna work out.
Am I the only one that didn’t know what this means?
That’s not a kink, that’s a mental illness.
I would say just relax you’re into it and so is he and you’re meeting up with somebody you’ve already been with before this is probably the least stressful it’s ever gonna be
Just make sure you’re comfortable doing what you’re doing don’t feel pressured or obligated if you’re happy to have sex in front of your boyfriend then knock yourself out girl and please not literally. Happy adventures
My opinion, I’m older male, also into this and more.
Your very young so you 2 won’t be together forever, if your down than try it ,he’s probably into more, could try 3sum with another girl also if your interested. Leave religion out of the bedroom.
I know people live yrs in relationships with fantasizes and never tell there partner, should always have the fantasy chat at the beginning of any relationship
“Experimented with it in past relationships”
Maybe try getting into that link where you do a bunch of meth so he can play the gross guy that takes advantage of addicts. It’ll be fine, I’ve done it with tons of passed girlfriends.
I’ve been in a relationship where we decided to do this and said I wouldn’t care and I didn’t care and then we kept letting it happen, when the times were right! And guess what? Everything was fine. Just have fun with it, sounds like you’re both into it! Our sexlife didn’t revolve around it or anything, and it didn’t measure our love for each other, but it was fun! It’s hot, kinda like watching porn but starring the person you have feelings for haha. Especially in long distance (I was traveling a lot for work), it’s a hot dynamic. Guarantee that’s what he finds enticing about if it’s not a humiliation thing. You just gotta set some solid boundaries first, for both of you. Respect is key. Always respect. You’re both allowed to change your mind about anything, remember that! Also make it about him; even when you’re with someone else, if that makes sense.
I doubt he’ll get upset if he’s done this before, and is requesting it, and if he does he can maturely tell you ok yeah maybe let’s not do that again. But I mean if he wants to experiment and you aren’t opposed trying it just go have fun it’s 2025
Send him a video of you two f#cking, he will love it.
you’re 19 hun, he is 25… the maturity gap in these relationships is huge until you hit about 22-23. this makes way for very unstable relationships which you don’t need at this age. trust me, i tried with a 33 yo when i was 19. you have naïveté to you (despite if you’ve been through a lot of early traumas) that makes it easy to put you in kink scenarios that could ultimately end up harming the both of you.
be safe in this, there’s not much context surrounding the situation, so it’s really hard to give you some advice. just be safe.
Just what he described. He wanted to be in control the person that was to be involved.
Your relationship is GGs let’s be real
Long distance is silly and he’s too old for you.
Find local guys and actually date them in person. Stop wasting your time.
No judgement.
I have not been in that type of relationship; however, I have been asked if I would entertain it. I can not have a relationship with a guy that would cuckhold. It to me is not what I could find satisfying. I have seen it and been exposed to a very kinky community.
I am with black guys so that is definitely not an issue. I just am repulsed by the cucks and that sexual expression.
Don’t force yourself to do anything you’re not comfortable with.
My husband is a cuck too lol but I’m never doing anything irl he has to be satisfied with what I do for him online :T
Just leave now
This world is a crazy place eh
The absolute best outcome is that your boyfriend gets sexual satisfaction from your outside experiences while you never get the satisfaction you need FROM YOUR OWN PARTNER. This is a no-win situation for you.
Sorry but people whom are into this are sickening (my opinion)
Yuck.
I’m in the wrong comment section lol I’d probably unalive someone if I saw my girl getting fucked on video
Completely aside from the morality of cheating on a guy who wants cheated on, or whether he’s going to get weird after it, or whether kink shaming is good or bad, there’s one thing I haven’t seen any discussion of:
Does the FWB know what’s going on, and does he consent to being part of their kink? It seems like it would be betraying the guy to let him think he’s just having a fling with OP when she’s taking notes to find her boyfriend a blow-by-blow after. That’s assuming she wouldn’t even consider filming him without his consent, or FaceTiming the boyfriend without telling the FWB. But even “I’m going to recount every detail so my boyfriend can get off on thinking of you” should be a discussion he’s involved in
If you are into it, go for it. As all parties are consenting, everyone knows what they are getting into. This could be a good building block for your relationship, you both will know if you are both aligned on what you both want of each other.
If you don’t both or either one will always feel a part of their needs are not being met.
I’d as sooner than later
So don’t
Communication very important. Also do research on it. Can just google for the information. If you don’t like the idea, then just tell him no you’re not comfortable
speaking from experience…RUN RUN RUN RUN RUN